6 Habits Of People Who Successfully Maintain A Long-Term Relationship

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6 Habits Of People Who Successfully Maintain A Long-Term Relationship
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By Unwritten

Our ultimate dating goal is to land in a healthy long-term relationship. Unfortunately, most people don’t understand how to attract partners who want the same things in life.

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Too often, dating turns into hookups that waste people’s time. So, if you’re tired of scrolling through Tinder and are ready to land a long-term lover, you should start developing these six habits that people who successfully land long-term relationships possess.

1. People who find lasting love are unapologetically themselves.

Many people find transparency to be a highly attractive attribute. When you start a relationship with someone who shows their true colors, you know what you’re getting into from day one.

Not everyone is going to like who they are, but that’s ok. In fact, it’s best to be honest about who you are than mislead someone and waste their time. 

People who are straightforward about what they want out of life end up with the best relationships at the end of the day. Women who want to learn how to tell if a guy wants a relationship or just a hookup need to spend some time really learning how to read the room and put out the vibes they want.

2. They don’t seek validation from others.

People who successfully attract long-term partners don’t usually seek validation from other people, and they exude an internal confidence. Confidence is highly attractive and draws people to you.

When you don’t need others to make decisions in your lives and know what you want, you know your worth and never settle for less than you deserve. This ultimately helps you attract people who will lift you up and shower you with love, which is what we all ultimately want.

3. People who land lasting partners genuinely pay attention.

If you want to keep people around, you must give them the attention they desire and deserve. When you pay attention to someone, your conversations are more meaningful and everyone feels respected.

Often times, those who pay close attention to their loved ones are the most caring and compassionate lovers. What’s more, your partner feels more comfortable when you listen to them with genuine interest, and this makes it easier for you both to vulnerably share.

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4. They remain positive and hopeful.

Not everyone handles situations the same way. While some people handle situations with maturity and poise, others crumble into a ball of negativity and sadness. 

Positivity creates a healthy environment for relationships to thrive. Although no one can provide rainbows and sunshine every single day, how you respond to negative events will ultimately help you stand out from the crowd.

When starting a relationship, you should find someone who has great problem-solving skills and understands how to solve problems collaboratively. Mature, respectful conversations are better than screaming and arguing.

A relationship that is based on common ground, mutual respect, and love will withstand the test of time.

5. They admit when they are wrong.

People who are ready for a committed relationship are mature enough to admit when they are wrong. This admirable trait and humble ego often attracts others, because most people don’t want to spend their lives with an egotistical jerk.

When people can’t see their partner’s perspective and belly up to the bar when they mess up, their relationships suffer and typically don’t last. 

6. They know what they want.

Couples can build a strong foundation for their relationship when they can share their hopes and dreams with each other. Knowing what your partner wants can help you proceed through life together while offering support.

This is why it’s so important for someone looking for a long-term relationship to know what they want out of life.

In fact, couples should sit down early on in any committed relationship and share what they want most out of life. This helps partners avoid deal-breakers down the road, because they have discussions regularly and share insights with each other. 

A long-term relationship requires mutual respect, maturity, and an advanced understanding of each other. Too often, people don’t take the time to have necessary discussions or make mistakes that ultimately cause the relationship to break down.

By building these six important attributes within yourself, though, you’ll be well on your way to a love that lasts with a special someone.

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