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A good partner would never treat their significant other like this.
By Unwritten — Written on Nov 18, 2019
By Tylia Flores
Modern dating can be extremely difficult, especially since not everyone wants to get to know you and build a serious relationship.
For instance, some people only date people with money. Others only date for sex. So, what signs can help you determine if a new partner is using you for all the wrong reasons?
Believe it or not, people often ignore or simply don’t notice these 7 obvious signs of dating someone for the wrong reasons.
1. They constantly ask you for favors.
Even though this may seem innocent at first, sometimes, it’s a red flag. Of course, you would do anything for your significant other, but when these requests become a habit or expectation, look out!
2. They make you feel guilty.
I can’t emphasize enough how important this one is. My ex-boyfriend used to lay on the guilt when I couldn’t help him out financially. He would say things like, “If you don’t have money then how I am supposed to get dinner tonight?”
It got to the point where I sent him money constantly out of guilt. Nobody should ever manipulate you like that.
3. They don’t appreciate the things you do for them.
When you go out of your way to help your partner, you expect them to express their gratitude. However, when someone is using you, they turn a blind eye to your kindhearted efforts. And that suggests that their intentions might not be so pure.
4. They don’t give you attention.
Lack of affection is a major relationship red flag. When your partner doesn’t give you their undivided attention, they’re probably using you and don’t care about your feelings.
Sometimes this can signal infidelity. Other times, it might imply that this person only wants money or gifts from you.
5. They make excuses and avoid spending time with you.
Quality time is one of the five love languages and an important part of every relationship. Therefore, this is one of the major red flags on this list.
When I dated my ex-boyfriend, he would plan to visit me and then, all of a sudden, he would cancel on me. If someone really loves you, they will make you a priority.
6. They always feel like the world revolves around them.
I know that this may not seem like a big deal, but it’s truly a red flag. When your partner feels like the world owes them something, it shows that they feel entitled. It could also mean that they just want to control you.
7. They ghost you for days at a time.
Ghosting is a huge red flag, because if a person loves you, they wouldn’t want to ghost you. Quite the contrary, they would want to be around you 24/7 and they would text you throughout the day.
That’s not to say that you should spend every moment with your significant other. However, people in committed relationships tell each other when they need space or experience difficult times.
Overall, dating can be difficult in today’s day and age. But, hopefully, these signs will help you see whether you’re being used for the wrong reasons, so that you won’t get your heart crushed by the mooches out there.
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Tylia Flores is a writer who focuses on relationships, dating, and love. For more of her relationship content, visit her author profile on Unwritten.
This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.