3 Ways To Decide Whether Or Not You Should End Your Summer Fling

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Should I Break Up With My Boyfriend? How To Know When To End A Relationship After A Summer Fling

By Unwritten

As summer begins to wind down, everything changes.

You’ll begin swapping shorts for jeans and sandals for sneakers.

But one other part of your summer besides ;your wardrobe may need to change as well.

At the end of the summer, should you end things with your summer fling?

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Summer flings are meant to be temporary, casual, and fun.

However, if you have a real connection with your fling, you may want to figure out how to know when to end a relationship — or how to take a fling to the next level.

So, should you join the 70 percent of millennials who turn their summer flings into something more?

Here are some things to consider if you're asking yourself, "should I break up with my boyfriend?" as the end of the summer rolls around.

1. Be honest about what you like about the fling.

Everything can seem better in the summer.

In short, it’s pretty easy to have fun during this time of year.

That’s why it’s a good idea to question what exactly you like about your summer fling.

Do you crave the steamy passion?

While a hot and heavy relationship certainly feels great, it’s important to remember that you need more than physical intimacy to make a relationship work.

So, if your fling is all physical chemistry and no substance, it may not be built to last.

On the other hand, if you’re attracted to your fling’s personality, then you may be able to kick your relationship up a notch.

If the two of you easily have long conversations or are able to stimulate each other on a mental or emotional level, this is certainly a strong sign that a relationship could work in your favor.

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2. Figure out whether your fling is serious about you.

The next thing that you will have to do is to figure out whether or not your fling is actually serious about you.

As you can imagine, this part can be a little tricky.

The good news is that your fling will often give you signs that can clue you in to whether they really like you.

If your fling plans meaningful dates for the two of you, you could be well on your way to an official relationship.

In that case, your arrangement isn’t just about hooking up — your fling genuinely wants to spend time with you.

You should also examine the kind of conversations that you have with this person.

Are they deep and thoughtful?

Do they reveal the truth about themselves, their past, and their family?

It is also usually a positive sign if the person has introduced you to their friends.

In most cases, people won’t bother to introduce you to important people in their lives if they don’t expect you to stick around.

So, if you have hung out as a group, your connection may be moving in the right direction.

You may also want to consider if you two have exchanged presents of any kind.

Has the other person taken the time to pick something out for you just because?

Taking the time to choose the perfect gift for you means that they wouldn’t mind getting a bit more serious.

At the same time, it is important to take people at their word.

If your summer fling has told you that they don’t want anything permanent, then they probably mean it.

If that’s the case, it is best to let your summer hookup come to an end.

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3. Consider the long-term.

When you have a summer fling, it is almost like you are living in a bubble.

For the most part, you only concern yourself with the here and now.

That’s a perfectly acceptable state for a temporary relationship.

However, if you want something more serious, you’re going to have to look at the big picture.

For instance, does your summer fling partner live in the same area as you?

If you met them on holiday, you are going to have to decide whether or not you can handle a long-distance relationship.

You will also need to consider whether or not your lifestyles and views are compatible.

Otherwise, you may just find that your daily, non-summer routine will get in the way of your relationship.

If you have polar opposite lifestyles, it may be better to end things now.

If you’re trying to decide whether your summer fling is meant to last, never fear!

Use these tips to discover if you should close the curtains on your summer fling or if your relationship can survive into the fall.

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