Understanding why he didn’t see your point of view will help decide if he's the one.
By Carlie Fox — Written on Jun 09, 2019
The worst feeling in the world is that crushing sensation when you realize he might not be the one.
We all have our quirks – things that make us unique. When it comes to our destiny, maybe there is a reason why the man in your life might not be the one.
Maybe he doesn’t understand that parts of you that make you stand out … and that’s okay.
You meet people at the right time, whether you know it or not. You begin to show them your weaknesses and strengths, your vulnerabilities and talents. When you begin to truly get to know someone, they might not vibe with you and may view the world differently. When you are attracted to that man with the big blue eyes, you try to look past his counter point of view.
Have you ever been in an argument with a man and he totally disrespects your opinion? You so badly just want to open his eyes to a new perspective, but he won’t budge.
Our personality traits and even our temper can fit into various groups: For example, Aries are very determined individuals and tend to push till the other person agrees with them. While Libras tend to hold in their true feelings to avoid confrontation.
We all want someone in our lives that truly understand us: Both on a physical and emotional level. It can he hard to let someone in whose opinions may differ from ours. It can also be difficult when you realize your dream guy may never accept your opinions. You may have to let him in to decide if he matches your flow.
Once you understand how to go about explaining what is in your mind and heart to the man you so badly want in your life, the flow of conversation and equality in opinion will expand. Always keep in mind that your true feelings and opinions come first – never let a man decide how you should think or feel.
If you're reading this and an image of the guy you like popped into your head, maybe you already have your answer. If he doesn't understand himself, he won't be able to understand you.
ARIES (March 21- 19)
Aries are passionate, driven people who want nothing more than to succeed in life. However, they can also be stubborn and don’t enjoy not being on the right side of nature. He didn’t understand you because he might also be an Aries, fighting for the top spot in the world. In order to get him to understand your point of view, try and level with each other.
TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)
Those in the Taurus family tend to be a little on the uncompromising side – and that is okay, ladies! You should not always have to compromise with a guy if you feel your rights or opinions are being suffocated.
However, in order to get him to understand you and your way of thinking, it may be beneficial to get together and work on something a little challenging. Cook a meal, garden outside, or go for a hike. Taurus may not like change, but opening yourself up and letting him in may persuade him to understand your thought process a little more.
GEMINI (May 21- June 20)
Geminis are known for being quick-witted and this trait comes in handy when getting to know someone. Due to their nature of being sociable, they have the ability to chat about anything under the sun.
However, when it comes to understanding someone, the key is consistency. Being consistent with your opinions and not letting a man waver your way of viewing the world is so important. Do not let your indecisive nature overrule your spunk. He might not understand what your true goal in life is if it constantly changes. Make it a healthy balance of spontaneity and routine.
CANCER (June 21- July 22)
Cancers, he might not understand you because he isn’t ready to let himself be vulnerable. Cancers are a highly sensitive and emotional group, open to sharing their feelings. However, when two Cancers are together, insecurities may arise as well as suspicions on the others true motives.
It might not be that he doesn’t understand, it could be that he doesn’t want to let anyone in. It may be hard for him to reveal parts of his personal life, or vice versa. Try and let him understand the world you grew up in and why you hold the beliefs you do. He ends up not listening, then it is time to walk away.
LEO (July 23 – August 22)
Leos may be inflexible at times, so try and be consistent with your emotions when explaining yourself. Don't fake a smile. Since this group is comprised of natural-born, strong-willed leaders, he may have felt intimidated and not ready to let you in. It sucks facing reality, but he isn’t the one if he can’t handle a strong woman. His loss, your personal gain.
VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
Virgos tend to hang onto and notice the small details within a conversation. He might not have understood you if you were too critical of both him and yourself. Be confident in your opinions, Virgos. It is okay to ask for help sometimes and let someone else in. He might not understand you due to your introverted nature, and that is his loss.
LIBRA (September 23- October 22)
Libras are a fair-minded group, which makes it easy for others to share their thoughts and opinions with them. However, their nature to self-doubt and confide in self-pity might draw them to avoid confrontation when possible. He didn’t understand you because he wasn’t sure how to go about opening up on his side. While Libras enjoy sharing with others, the man of your dreams may be the opposite.
SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)
Scorpios, your calm and cool behavior while also being a force of nature makes them able to communicate with others easily. However, their jealously may cloud their judgment. He might not understand you because he couldn’t understand where your insecurities were coming from. It is hard for Scorpios to reveal secrets, but revealing your truth may help let him in.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21)
The extroverted Sagittarius, ready to tackle any situation that comes their way. He didn’t understand you because he was unclear on your feelings and what you wanted out of the relationship. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and constrain yourself a little – leave him wanting more.
CAPRICORN (December 22- January 19)
Capricorns, he didn’t understand you because he didn’t share your disciplined and serious nature. It is important to be unwavering in your opinions, and it is a good thing that this group does not. However, he might have saw the Capricorn’s know-it-all nature as a bad thing. If he can’t understand your passions, he isn't the one.
AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18)
Aquarius, he didn’t understand you because he thought you ran from your emotions. Look deep inside yourself and reflect on whether or not you shared what you wanted to. Don’t lock yourself into a bubble of limitation. Compromise on setting boundaries with him, but also don’t be afraid to let him in. Show him the inner workings of your mind, ladies. It is beautiful in there.
PISCES (February 19 – March 20)
Last but never least, Pisces are the selfless group. They put others before themselves and if he didn’t understand why, he can’t sense your true self. Don’t place trust in someone who may not have your best interest at heart, but also don’t be fearful on letting him in to understand you. If he ends up looking the other way, his path may be headed in a different direction.
Carlie Fox covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.