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It really does hurt your love life, and here's why.
By Kaitlin Kaiser — Written on Jun 08, 2019
We all get to a point in our lives where we are on edge.
You're irritable, annoyed, bitter. Something is stressing you out. Maybe its work, maybe its your parents, maybe its money but you're stressed out. Any time you are carrying stress with you, its going to appear everywhere in your life.
You’re going to argue more with co-workers, in your dark moments with customer service people, and mostly with your significant other. You’re going to bring all that stress home and give it to your partner, wrapped up like a fight.
Now sometimes your significant other is the cause of your stress. Maybe they are annoying you. Maybe you stopped trusting them, maybe they are stressed about something and taking it out on you.
Maybe you’re the cause of their stress. Maybe you’re making them jealous. Maybe you’re not opening up enough. Perhaps you aren’t doing a good job of showing them you love them.
If you and your significant other are fighting more than usual you need to read this.
Here is a list of reasons you are fighting more than usual and how it causes you stress, based on your zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
Aries are often moody. You are short tempered by nature. If you are fighting more with your partner look at what they are doing. They are probably being lazy, and inactive. You want to inspire them to be more assertive in their pursuits, but it comes out aggressive.
You are also very competitive. You want to get ahead at everything you do, including your relationship. If you keep pushing someone who isn’t ready to be pushed, that is going to spark a lot of arguments.
TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)
Taurus are very stubborn. If you and your partner get into even the smallest argument you are likely to fight with them about it for weeks. You are never going to be the first person to give in, even if you know you are wrong. You hate insecurity and being made to feel insecure.
If your partner is jealous you are going to be angry at their distrust and insecure in your ability to show affection, rather then being understanding and trying to figure out what you are doing to make them feel that way.
GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)
Geminis are very nervous. You like to keep moving, riding on the fumes of anxiety. Geminis hate routine and are likely to feel very constricted. If you and your partner do the same thing week after week it is likely to cause you to feel very intolerant. You want change.
But you also don’t want to be the one to come up with the ways to change. You want your partner to recognize that you are unhappy with your routine, figure out what needs to change, and make decisions of what you do together, without consulting you. You don’t want to be in the driver’s seat.
CANCER (June 21 – July 22)
Cancers, like Aries, can be very moody. You are already prone to pessimism and suspicion. You can question your partner and make them feel like they are on trial, because deep down you think they will cheat on you.
You also have a tendency to be manipulative, twisting things in a fight to get your way. If your partner sees what you are doing this can prolong the fight, making it a bigger deal than it would have been had you been more forthright with your intentions.
LEO (July 23 – August 22)
Leos CANNOT be ignored. You need to feel like the center of your partners universe at all times. If something is going on in your partners life that makes you feel like you’re in second place, that is going to leave you on edge.
Leos are very good problem solvers, and often take on problem solving challenges. This can be very stressful, especially when people are relying on you. The stress of being the problem solver will all be worth it if you partner recognizes your sacrifice. If they do not, then this could lead to constant fighting.
VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
Virgos are very detail oriented. You are very overly critical of everyone, but especially yourself. You will sit up at night worrying about something small that your partner did, that you have over analyzed 24 times, and come up with a list of reasons why your relationship is going to end because of it.
Virgos are also very sensitive to rude behavior. If your partner is rude even inadvertently, you are going to be hurt by that more so than other signs.
LIBRA (September 23 – October 22)
Libras are very non-confrontational. If something bothers you, you will likely keep it to yourself. But that won’t stop you from holding a grudge. You will hold on to things for months without saying anything, but you’ll remember.
Then finally, when a fight is unavoidable, all of these things are going to come up. You’re going to say everything that has happened that bothered you since your last fight. This combustion will lead to a long line of fighting, because your partner will feel insecure knowing that you hold on to things without letting them know there was a problem.
SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)
Scorpios you know what’s coming. You’re jealous. Scorpios are very distrusting and are easily made to feel jealous. Scorpios also tend to be secretive and dishonest, which ends up making their partners jealous.
So, if you are fighting a lot with your partner, it is likely that you both are feeling insecure in the relationship.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21)
Sagittarius people are very impatient. If your partner is not accomplishing a task as quickly as you would like, whether it be something around the house, a career goal, a step in your relationship, or even getting over something that is bother them, you want it to be finished already.
You are also very blunt. You are going to say what ever you are thinking, with little to no sensor, which can often times hurt your partner. If your partner is becoming too clingy and needs you to much, this can also cause fights for you, because you absolutely hate that.
CAPRICORN (December 22 – January 19)
Capricorns are always expecting the worst. You are very pessimistic in your relationships. This sort of insecurity could anger your partner. You are also very unforgiving.
If your partner were to make a mistake you hold onto it, likely because you had been waiting for it to happen. When you and your partner fight you tend to be a know it all, giving your partner more reason to want to continue arguing.
AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18)
Aquarius people can be very aloof. You act like you don’t care about things which can leave your partner feeling very insecure. You hate talking about your feelings so it is likely that this will erupt into a bigger fight.
Aquarius people also hate limitations, so if you feel like your relationship is holding you back or keeping you from doing something, that is going to be a source of arguments for a while.
PISCES (February 19 – March 20)
Pisces people are very fearful. You sit and worry about their relationships, even when there is nothing to worry about. You also hate criticism.
If your partner approaches you about something that is bothering them, you are going to take it very hard. You also have a constant desire to escape reality, so when things get tough, your partner may want to discuss it while you would rather pretend its not happening.
Kaitlin Kaiser is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.