Why You Argue More Now Than Before, By Zodiac Sign
When you both have strong personalities, fights are part of the deal.
Let's start off by saying this: fighting with your partner is completely normal and healthy even! It doesn't automatically mean that your relationship is falling apart or that you've lost that special something that's been holding the two of you together.
However, if you're noticing that suddenly these fights are much more frequent or more volatile, it may be a good idea to consider what that can mean with astrology by looking at your horoscope. Like I said, fighting with your partner is completely normal.
But if you're feeling frustrated or frazzled about the frequency of your fights, maybe it's time to step back and consider why these fights may actually be happening. Doing so may allow you to get at the source of the issue rather than continuing a string of fights over things that don't matter.
To that end, we've put together a list of reasons why you're fighting more with your partner and some advice to rectify the situation, according to your zodiac sign. This list can be a great tool for anyone feeling overwhelmed or even curious about what is going on to make the fighting so much more regular.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
An Aries is more likely to start feeling feisty when they're feeling the stress and pressure at work. This can happen in one of two ways. One, an Aries will feel like this when their work is unsatisfying.
Their talents just aren't being fully utilized or taken advantage of and they absolutely know they can do much more than they are. An Aries needs the opportunity to shine in their workplace in order to feel content.
Without that, they may be more likely to raise their standards at home and pressure their SO to do more instead. The other reason they may be feeling the pressure is that they're used to being the first in everything, and that isn't happening at work right now.
Instead, their job is calling on them to step up and do more, and they aren't able to for some reason. This will lead to that same feeling of dissatisfaction, and the same result of more tension at home.
If you're experiencing this, the best thing you can do is to center that anger back where it belongs, in the workplace. They say leave your problems at the door when you get to work, but the same is true of coming home: leave work problems at work.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
A Taurus is fighting more frequently because they are feeling more insecure than usual. This may be a result of some kind of change in their lives that has left them feeling unstable in some way.
Moving, a new job, new expectations. All of these leave a Taurus feeling disoriented and unsettled, meaning that they will take it out on those around them causing bitterness and fighting.
A Taurus can also be overprotective and defensive, likely because they feel the need to protect what they care about that. As the SO of a Taurus, it's helpful to look for the root of the cause and reassure them. And if you are a Taurus, consider what may really be bothering you, and try to have a conversation about that rather than small things.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
A Gemini is throwing out fighting words because they're feeling trapped in their life. Life has become repetitive and predictable, and a Gemini needs excitement and change in order to be happy.
They're working the same hours, coming home, making the same dinners, watching the same shows, sleeping the same hours, and repeating. It's not enough to satisfy their needs, and as a result, they begin fighting with their SO because they're bored.
Even a fight can be better than boredom: or at least something to do. I'm not saying it's a good system, but that's sometimes the way it goes. If a Gemini is fighting more often because they are feeling trapped, they should do something spontaneous. Call out sick, take a weekend trip, or plan an impromptu vacation.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Feeling more vulnerable than usual can cause a Cancer to be more combative. Although they are used to being emotionally involved with the people around them, they may feel threatened or exposed for some reason.
For example, a Cancer has an SO, and they get into a fight. Suddenly, a Cancer is feeling threatened that they may lose this person. Knowing that they have the potential for being hurt may cause a Cancer to lash out preemptively and fight more frequently with this person: ultimately leading to more feelings of vulnerability. It's a vicious cycle that a Cancer may not even be aware of. The best way to solve this is to try to sit down and have a conversation where both parties are being vulnerable.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
A Leo is fighting with their partner more often because they are feeling insecure in the relationship. At some point, they stopped feeling like they had control of the situation. They caught feelings, became emotionally invested, and suddenly all of that is being threatened, and they aren't able to regain the control that they are used to.
For a Leo, this can be really overwhelming, because they are so used to leading the charge. Without that leadership role, they feel unsure of how to proceed and become more volatile as a result. One way to fight this instinct is to trust that your SO is not trying to let you down, and maybe try to have a discussion about how their actions are making you feel.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Because they absolutely hate asking for help, a Virgo may be overwhelmed at the prospect. Doing so can make them feel helpless and weak and they will fight hard to prove that they are independent and capable.
This means that they may lash out against you. This is especially true when a Virgo needs financial help. When they feel backed into a corner and are forced to ask for help, they really resent that, which leads to fighting.
While it seems like a poor reward for helping a Virgo, it just means that they're having a hard time accepting your support. The best thing to do as the SO of a Virgo is to give support with no conditions, and without pointing out the fact that they needed it.
Just ignore it entirely. They'll begin to show their gratitude as soon as you don't ask for it. Weird, I know. But as a Virgo, I still do this, knowing full well the reason why I'm acting out. Sorrrrryyyy.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
A Libra will do almost anything to avoid a confrontation, much preferring to hold a grudge in silence. So if they are fighting with you, it means that something is seriously wrong. In fact, it likely is a long standing issue that they have been holding in for quite some time.
These feelings have been building and building, and the explosion definitely proves this. It's hard to combat this just because these feelings are so powerful. But, their need for peace can win out. The best way to handle this is to recognize that holding a grudge isn't fair, especially if the other person doesn't realize you're holding onto these feelings.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
If a Scorpio is fighting MORE often than usual, you should be a little concerned. Most likely, the reason for this is that they feel that there is some kind of secrecy going on. Ultimately a Scorpio is a classic example of a fight or fight response, often reacting before knowing all the details.
They will lash out if they get the impression that something is off or out of place. The best way to handle this is to confront your SO directly. Try to resist the attack approach if possible, but ask the questions you need to and react if the answer warrants that response. Don't bottle it up or wait to ask. You deserve an answer. But make sure you are fighting for the right reasons rather than lashing out just to lash out.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
A Sagittarius, much like a Gemini, will fight when they are feeling held back or trapped. This means that in the moments where they feel stuck, they will react explosively, starting fights.
This is just as true in a relationship, when their SO is being too clingy or asking them to hold themselves back from doing something that they care about. A Sagittarius, even if they decide to stay, will likely resent this.
To them, it will feel like they're being chained down, and this sign is one that needs plenty of freedom. If you love a Sagittarius, set them free. They'll come back if it's meant to be.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
A Capricorn will fight more often when they feel that they've lost control. Because they value their responsibility, practicality, and know-how, losing those feelings will make them feel helpless.
They need to be in control to feel settled in any scenario. In addition, they can be very fickle as far as their dislikes go. If something rubs them the wrong way, there will likely be some kind of a fight about it. Ultimately the best way to handle this is to try to learn how to cope with a lack of control, step out of the driver seat and try to become comfortable with that.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius feels the need to fight when they are being limited or when there's an injustice they are unable to fight. Because they are such an intellectual sign, they feel the need to pursue intellectual goals.
If they are being held back from that potential, they tend to be annoyed by that. They need the time and space to pursue these things: otherwise they'll be irritable and more likely to fight.
They also fight for the issues that they care about and hate injustice. If there's a situation bothering an Aquarius that is something they can't fix, it'll bother them. The best way to help with this is to find some way they can contribute to the cause, big or small, or send them in another direction to pursue the next goal. That kind of support will mean a lot.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
A Pisces really hates being undermined. As an artistic and expressive sign, they love to be knowledgeable and well-read, and when those values are contradicted, they feel like they are being personally attacked.
This us one issue that won't melt away, they'll feel like they need to prove and assert themselves intellectually, and do so through underhanded comments and picking fights. Honestly, one of the best ways to fix this is to refuse to engage, take a step back, and let them exhaust themselves.
Beth El Fattal is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationships topics.