27 Things Women Do To Stay Safe That Men Will Never Have To
Women have to deal with a lot.
Pexels By Brittany Christopoulos
As a child I used to get so annoyed by all of the freedom my guy friends and my brother were granted, , while myself and my sister felt like we were held in captivity. We weren’t allowed to walk alone at night or go out with certain groups of friends until a certain time.
Our parents would always say, “it’s because you’re a woman.” We would claim that they were being sexist and didn’t believe in our strong will power and independence. Little did we know that we truly weren’t invincible to danger and sadly those issues are more common than we thought.
As we grew up and became aware of the issues that women face, we now understand their concern, strict rules and emphasis on safety. I’m no longer naive to the issues I used to hear about on the news because I’ve experienced them. And so have the woman closest to me.
There is a list as long as my arm of things that women must do to ensure their safety that men will never have to do simply because they are in a safer situation.
Here are a few of those things:
1. Hold your keys like a weapon
2. Check the backseat of your car
3. Call someone just for the sake of having someone just in case
4. Never go outside alone at night
5. Lock the windows and doors in your home at all times
6. Don’t drink too much
7. Never put your drink down
8. Watch your drink when it’s being poured
9. Own a big dog for protection
10. Carry perfume, hairspray, pepper spray or mase just in case you need to spray it
11. Park your car in well lit areas
12. Avoid parking garages if possible
13. Don’t get in an elevator alone or with a large group of men
14. Change your route on your way home
15. Don’t use highway rest stations
16. Watch what you wear
17. Don’t wear headphones when out in public
18. Avoid wooded areas in general
19. Always go out in groups
20. Never get an apartment or hotel room on the main floor
21. Always meet in a public place when on a first date
22. Always have cash in case you need it for an emergency ride home
23. Update your friends and family on your whereabouts/plans to be safe
24. Leave outside lights on every night
25. Keep your blinds closed at night
26. Lock the car door the second you get inside and as soon as you exit
27. Send license plate information if you are getting in a car with a stranger to your friends in case
While women look at this lengthy list and can agree that they to are guilty of doing at least 80% of these when in public, men are questioning why it’s necessary to do any. Sadly they will never have to.
The more men I meet and discuss these issues with is staggering, because they genuinely think our parents were just strict for enforcing these behaviors on us. These men are too blind to see just how difficult it is to be a woman in the real world.
Men will blame these insecurities or cautionary exercises on the color of their skin, the size or how that person is dressed. It’s not the race of a person or their behaviors that scare women in public; their gender does.
Let’s be honest, men scare the hell out of us in public literally all because one dude creeped us out at one point and now their gender is tarnished.
It is extremely difficult and frustrating to not be able to go out in public without feeling unsafe.
Someone walking up to your car will cause you to freeze, your speed is always trying to get faster when walking by a group of men, cars slowing down or following you, and crude and inappropriate behavior to random strangers have all become the norm for us.
It’s a crippling fear to walk down the street and feel like something is automatically going to happen to you.
These safety practices have become essential to ensure our safety on a daily basis and are part of a regular routine. Despite having to go through all of these cautions, we still feel uneasy about going in public and running into issues.
Positive efforts have been made to help the uneasy feelings settle, but we can’t help it.
Until you’ve experienced the harassment, catcalls, inappropriate stares or the feeling of being watched or violated, you simply cannot relate. It is the worst feeling in the world, and you will never be the same afterwards.
What’s even more twisted is that society wants to make us seem crazy or feel humiliated for making these precautions after we’ve felt violated or been harmed.
It’s important that instead of bashing women for protecting themselves in simple ways, that we encourage them to continually proceed with caution and help them in any way you can.
We should also become more aware of issues when we see them, such as body language or listening to unwanted conversations. They are a lot more common than you think.
Most importantly, we should be educating young women how to defend themselves, prevent these issues to the best of their abilities, teach them these safety techniques we all swear by to prepare themselves for the issues they may face since we apparently can’t educate people how to not harass, assault, intimidate or leave women alone.
Brittany Christopoulos is a journalist and writer who covers lifestyle, love, and feminist issues. For more of her content on women's rights and feminism, visit her on Twitter.