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Dodged a bullet with that one!
By Emily Ratay — Written on Jan 08, 2019
Have you ever ended a relationship and immediately thought, "Oh, thank god that's over!" Sure, right?
Of course, you have! Right after crying for a bit and bad mouthing the guy to your friends for a week straight.
Look, I get it, sometimes you need to be sad for a little bit. But after you realize that the relationship you were in was really toxic and bad for you, you can say, "Whew!" and move on with your life.
Not all bad relationships are lucky enough to end with you feeling relieved, but it certainly does help with finding closure. One of the worst feelings (at first, at least) is realizing that the relationship was over before it really began.
You might have hyped up the relationship with your friends (and yourself), but before you could really even make it official, he was calling it quits.
It might feel like a slap in the face for someone you thought you were hitting it off with to turn around and tell you that it wasn't really ever going to work out, but it's important to look for that silver lining, too.
When you're upset that a relationship didn't work out, it can feel good to tell your friends that he wasn't even a good kisser or that he still had his mom do his laundry every week.
And even though these things might be kind of petty to bring up, it can certainly make the breakup feel a little easier to cope with.
But lucky for you, and everyone else out there who is having a hard time dealing with the sudden loss of a budding relationship, each horoscope sign has something they could probably work on to make their relationships last a bit longer.
Some zodiac signs don't really know what they want in a relationship, while others have a hard time communicating and being honest with their partners. While this might not seem like such a huge deal, it definitely is when you're the one he has a hard time deciding to stay with.
And let me just say that it is a lot better to have a relationship end suddenly when you're with a guy who isn't sure he really wants to be with you. I mean, talk about dodging a bullet, amirite? Inevitably, it's going to suck for a while.
Maybe it won't, but there's a good chance it will. But after the mourning period is over, you can finally find someone who actually wants to be with you. And by then, you'll know what kind of person you want to date.
But for now, here's why you're glad things didn't work out, per astrology.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Make up your mind already – do you want me or not? If this sounds familiar, chances are you've probably said this at some point. Patience is not your forte, Aries, but there ARE times when demanding an answer right now actually works out in your favor.
While you might be a little demanding when it comes to having him profess his true feelings for you, you gotta know: is this worth your time or not? You should be glad things didn't work out because it turns out he doesn't know what he wants – and it's better to be single than have some guy waste your time.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
You know that you have to take things slow at the beginning of a relationship when you're with someone new – at least until you can both figure out what you want – but you also like knowing if the relationship is actually going anywhere or not.
You think he'd say something if things were moving too fast, right? Then how come it felt like he didn't really care one way or the other? He may have met your friends and family, but it was a few months in and he had yet to tell you his mom's name. Thank your lucky stars it's over because he wasn't serious about this relationship.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Constant communication is like, your thing, Gemini. It's how you keep in touch with all of your old friends from school, your kickboxing buddy, and all of the guys you're currently talking to. And because you're so good at communication (and social media), keeping track of it all is way easy.
Of course, when you get someone like this last guy playing with your heart, it can make you feel like you're losing your touch. The first minute, he's all over you and next minute, you're not sure if he's ghosting you or if he was snatched by some giant, prehistoric bird (it's gotta be that one, right?). Anyone who can't be a grownup and just talk to you about how he feels deserves to live in your past.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
You can be a sultry vixen and a nurturing partner, Cancer, but you need to know that your guy undeniably appreciates all sides of your personality – not just the side he likes the most. If he doesn't, you have no problem saying, "Sayonara!" and trying again.
Relationships are learning curves for you – you know that there are things you need to work on when finding the right guy for you and you're willing to put in the work. You're glad it didn't work out this time because he didn't respect what you wanted and who you are. You win some, you lose some... this is just one of the ones you lose.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Love, no matter how fleeting or long-lasting, is important to you, Leo. You love to love, and you love being loved. When you date, you do so thinking that this person could be around for a looong time – as long as he knows how to treat you right.
You should be over the moon that things didn't work out with the guy who is there one minute and gone the next. You have NO time for the guy who walks in and out of your life like you're a convenience store. No, you can't come and go as you please because you have feelings and needs. If he can't give you what you need, he's not worth it.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
You like to think that you know what you want out of a relationship, Virgo, but you can be just as clueless as the rest of us. Sure, you might have preferences or a "type" that you like, but beware of the men who talk a little too smoothly or have all the answers; there IS such a thing as too good to be true.
It might have taken you a while to realize that the relationship was unhealthy, but it's important to not blame yourself for it. You are sometimes drawn to people who trick you into taking care of them, but you can't always help it with your selfless nature. You might not have known he was manipulating you then, but you do now, and you're glad it's over.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Relationships are SO your thing, Libra. You can't help but fall in love with all of the good things that come with a relationship, including weekly date nights, inside jokes, and anniversaries. As long as the romance and affection keep a-flowing, you're happy.
Of course, you do need the relationship to go somewhere at some point. This one didn't go anywhere, but you have hope that the next one will. You should be glad things didn't work out with this guy because every time you brought up moving in together, meeting the family, or making things Facebook official, he shrugged the conversation off. Ummm, hello? Can you get a little transparency here?
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Finding the right person might be challenging to you, but it's certainly not for a lack of trying, Scorpio. You might not always know what you want out of a relationship, but you are willing to keep trying instead of giving up just because one person can't give you the right things.
You can sometimes be an "all or nothing" person when it comes to dating, but don't apologize for it. You are allowed to want a serious commitment from someone and want to kick them to the curb if they can't deliver. For this exact reason, be glad things didn't work out with him. He might have had some good qualities, but ultimately, he couldn't commit, and it was better things fizzled out.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Some zodiac signs might find it sexy to be with someone who likes to call the shots, but you're the boss of your own life, Sagittarius (and you DON'T like being told what to do). Being with someone who doesn't even take you into consideration is a total turn off.
You thank the Universe every day that things didn't work out with this guy because he always made you feel possessed – and not in a Ghost Adventures type of way. You knew you were on your way out when you realized that he was trapping you into a committed relationship without your approval. If you can't be totally comfortable with someone, it's not going to last.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Everything you do in life is driven by your ambition, Capricorn. There is nothing you do in life that is just for the heck of it because you don't believe in wasting your time – and that includes people as much as it does other things.
You should be glad things didn't work out because there's a good chance you were just going to keep wasting your tie. Whether it was because he didn't know what he wanted from the relationship or he was just leading you on without any real commitment, you're much better off focusing on what matters most to you instead of being with a guy who doesn't have your best interests at heart.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
You can be very perceptive when it comes to relationships, Aquarius. In other words, you tend to know when someone isn't worth your time or effort very early into the relationship. Unfortunately for you, that also means that you're constantly on the hunt for your perfect match.
But while dating can be exhausting and sometimes unfulfilling, be thankful that things didn't work out this time. One of your biggest deal breakers is being with someone who makes you the center of his Universe. If he doesn't have friends and family he can hang out with, a rich social life, and interests beyond the relationship, he's better off being with someone else – NOT you.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Being the fish of the zodiac can make for a very exhausting dating life, Pisces. You have a tendency to be hot and cold at times, which can make finding and staying with one person very difficult for you. Just because you're picky, though, doesn't mean you don't make an effort.
It might suck at first, but you should definitely be glad things didn't work out with this last guy. One thing that really rubs you the wrong way is someone who can't follow through. Whether that's with dinner plans or a promise to have a serious talk about what this relationship is if he can't even agree to be honest with you, what good is he to keep around?
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.