Why He's Too Shy To Ask You Out, Per Astrology

Men are shy, too.

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Perhaps you’ve been talking to a guy for some time now, and you’re wondering when he’s going to finally ask you out.

You can’t stop yourself from thinking about all the reasons that might be holding him back. 

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You come up with a few plausible reasons, but you missed a good one. Did it ever cross your mind that he hasn’t asked because he is too shy? Put yourself in a man’s shoes for just a moment.

From the time they are born, many boys are told that they must be tough. They are told that expressing emotions makes them weak, and no one wants a weak man. Though it’s tough, this is the reality for so many men.

Because of this, men have mastered the art of pretending like everything is ok. They have learned to laugh everything off and wouldn’t dare admit that they too have fears. One of those fears for many guys is asking a woman out.


Don’t be fooled by their calm demeanors, men also get shy when they are around someone they like. They too get butterflies and hesitate to make a move. Often times their pride simply cannot handle being turned down, so asking a woman out is a difficult task.

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Some horoscope signs freeze up just thinking about it. A lot of men won’t admit it but being told no time and time again or even simply hearing or seeing other men get told no can make a man weary of making the first move.

Nobody likes feeling constantly defeated, no matter the gender. Defeat brings out a person’s inner most insecurities and diminishes their confidence. Men want to make sure that this moment goes as smoothly as possible.


Therefore, many men will hold out on asking a woman out until he can fully gather up his courage and until he is certain that she will say yes.

So if you’re still wondering why a guy hasn’t asked you out, here’s how astrology explains his shyness, based on his zodiac sign.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)


There is nothing an Aries man hates more than feeling shamed. He is beyond sure of his feelings for you, but he can’t risk being rejected if he asks you out and you don’t return the feeling.

In the past he has rushed into expressing his feelings to someone without giving much thought into how that person felt. This has just lessened his confidence and caused him to be insecure when it comes to making the first move.

So, although he is beyond sure of his feelings for you, he can’t risk being rejected if he asks you out and you shut him down.

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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)


The sign of Taurus is known for lacking initiative. Taking initiative freaks them out. The Taurus that is into you gets scared just thinking about asking you out. This happens often when he is attempting to catch the girl of his dreams.

Asking you out is too big of a risk because he isn’t sure of your emotions and just the thought of you not saying yes is too much to bear. He would rather just wait for you to make the first move, that way he can be clear about where you stand.

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Even though Gemini’s are social butterflies, they too get nervous when having to ask someone they really like out. A huge part of this comes from Gemini men being indecisive about their feelings.


One of their biggest challenges is actually finding an emotion that lasts when it comes to love. He may really like you one day, and then forget all about you the next. He doesn’t want to make a sudden move based on his ever-fleeting emotions and screw up the special bond he beginning to form with you.

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Cancers have a deep fear of rejection. Therefore, it comes as no surprise that Cancers do whatever they can to avoid situations that could easily result in them being turned away.


They are already overwhelmed by their own insecurities and negative views of the world, so being turned down after asking you out will only instantly make all of his insecurities surface. He cannot handle this, as it will just drive him further away from being able to overcome his shortfalls.

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LEO (July 23 - August 22)


A Leo is used to feeling like a king, and kings rarely ever get told no. He is scared to ask you out because it wouldn’t know how to respond if you said no. His pride would be too hurt, and he wouldn’t know how to interact with you in the future.

He would always be reminded that you were the person who made him feel less confident, less powerful. This would be a difficult reality to face, and Leos are known to run away from facing difficult realities.

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)


Virgo men can be surprisingly shy and therefore hate taking center stage. Asking you out puts too much unwanted attention on him. He is also known to be overly critical. He will drive himself crazy trying to think of the perfect way to ask you to be his girlfriend.

He is too afraid that if he misses even the slightest detail that he will mess it up which will result in him and you being disappointed. A Virgo already thinks disappointment is inevitable, so he is trying to convince himself that it is better to just not ask in the event that your answer will be no.   

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)


As a Libra, he prides himself on being a man who doesn’t waste time on relationships that are superficial. One of his main goals in life is to find a compatible partner who he can give his all to.

He is worried that he might be moving too fast with you, and that asking you out right now will scare you away. He will be upset with himself if he is wrong about the way you feel because he would have waste time on someone who he was never meant to have a future with.

He will try with all his might not to hold you saying no against you, but your Libra love interest can hold a grudge like no other. He is therefore willing to wait to make sure you are truly the one for him.   

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)


Once he has made up his mind about you, his emotions will be hard to change. Scorpios are always searching for the love of their lives and would be hurt if it turned out to not be you.

He won’t admit it, but just the idea of you saying no if he were to ask you out upsets him. His once fond feelings of you would turn to hate and he wants to avoid that.

He knows himself well enough to know that he can become vindictive when his feelings are hurt, and he will find it hard to forgive you. He doesn’t want to have this attitude towards you, so he struggles with finding the courage to ask you out.

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

A Sagittarius is simply not stable. It takes him a while to figure out what his intentions are with women. Because he moves at such a fast pace when it comes to emotions, he usually struggles to find someone who can keep up with him.


He needs someone who can bring purpose and stability into his life. This is why he is hesitant to ask you out. A Sagittarius man is scared that you have noticed that he can’t stick to one emotion for long, and therefore won’t take him seriously.

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

Capricorn’s are always expecting the worst possible outcome, which makes them overly cautious individuals. A Capricorn man is afraid that if he makes a mistake then he will suffer major consequences.


In the case of asking you out, if he doesn’t ask you in the proper way he fears that he might lose you before he even truly has a chance to wins you over. He is also known to treat the women he likes as supernatural beings, and this causes him to act strange.

He doesn’t want you to think he is a creep, he just believes you are too good to be true and wants to make sure he does everything in the right time and manner, so he will for sure capture your heart.

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)


Aquarius-born men are naturally shy. They are no strangers to running away from any type of emotional expression. When they find themselves falling for someone they get frustrated because they will not know how to show it.

An Aquarius does not have the confidence and security in himself to make a bold move. He fears that he will freeze when attempting to ask you out seeing as he has trouble communicating how he feels. This will potentially turn you away from him, as communication is extremely important in relationships.


PISCES (February 19 - March 20)


Short-term relationships are a huge turnoff for Pisces men. When he is considering settling down with someone, he is looking to be with them for a lifetime. This can cause him to be fearful of asking you out, because in the event you say no he will realize that he was wrong about you being “the one”.

A Pisces man sets high expectations for himself and often finds himself struggling to meet them. He will want to ask you out in the perfect way and can’t fathom the thought of screwing it up. He will be deeply disappointed in himself.

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Alexis George is a writer who covers love, relationship advice, astrology and personality topics.