Dark Traits Of The INFP Myers Briggs Personality Type

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The Dark Side Of INFP Myers Briggs Personality Type
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Sometimes you can have too much of a good thing.

When you have a positive personality trait, the over-expression of that same part of your character creates an imbalance.

That can happen to the INFP personality type. Referred to as the "Mediator" because of their ability to see multiple sides to a problem, seeing everyone's side can be exhausting, and that's when having an INFP personality can be more negative than positive.

The Myers-Briggs personality test groups everyone in the world into 16 personality types.

INFP (which stands for Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, Perception) have a strong sense of altruism and crave harmony. Disagreements and disputes can make peace seem out of reach. This personality type then acts opposite to who they really are on the inside.

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They often make friends by being the go-to guy and helping people solve their problems. Sometimes they need a little help themselves though because their emotions get the best of them.

Here are 4 of the positive character traits that can become negative personality traits for an INFP when they need time to think and reconnect with their more quiet side:

1. INFPs can get lost in their own heads.

As an INFP myself, sometimes things just get a little too hectic. If it has been especially cruel in the world lately, it can push us to just stay in bed and shut everything out.

INFPs are extremely susceptible to falling into downward spirals, no matter how big or small the issue is. This can be super confusing for friends.

If your friend has been ignoring your calls or flaking on plans, just remember that it probably doesn't have anything to do with you. When it comes to times like these, just getting out of bed can be extremely taxing, and I'm talking from experience.

Check in with your friend and see what the real issue is.

2. Emotions can get the best of an INFP.

Since we're always thinking about other people's emotions and how to help our friends, sometimes we overthink our own situations. Small things can send us into a spiral of overthinking and jumping to conclusions.

The key is communication. Something you might not have even noticed might be bothering them, and they will just let it fester until you bring it up to avoid "being annoying."

When dealing with personality types that have very strong emotions, try not to jump to your own conclusions about what they're thinking or feeling. You might think it's one thing that's got them bent out of shape when in reality it might not even have to do with you.

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3. INFPs can be a little self-absorbed.

Because we have all these emotions and things going on, it can be easy to feel like we have the hardest life in the world.

And the way that we're constantly thinking about every little thing can cause us to tune out what's actually happening in the real world, even if it's one of our closest friends talking to us. It can cause us to ignore how our friends feel sometimes because we think we know everything, and how everything works.

On behalf of all INFPs, I apologize for this.

4. Relationships aren't really easy for an INFP.

It's not that we don't want to find true love like everyone else, it's that we're just really bad at addressing conflict. If there's something we don't like about a person, rather than talking it out and fixing it, we'll just act like nothing is wrong.

This can get really messy if we feel like we aren't really into a person because rather than saying that, we'll just lead you on for a while till you give up.

I totally understand that this makes us the worst, btw.

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Josie Fuller is a writer who studies Journalism and Women's Studies at The University of Florida.