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Now's your chance, ladies!
By Arianna Jeret — Written on Feb 09, 2018
Should women ever ask a guy out? It's one of those questions for the ages that people of any gender could seemingly debate from now until the end of time. And when you're trying to figure out how to get a guy to like you, deciding whether or not to say something first can be way more stressful that you ever expected.
Yesterday, however, sex and relationship blogger and self-proclaimed "agony aunt" Dami Olonisakin, AKA Oloni, asked the women of Twitter to join her in a daring Valentine's Day challenge: to ask the guy they're currently crushing on to be their Valentine and go out with them on a date, then share screenshots of the men's responses.
"Ladies, ask the guy you have a crush on to be your Valentine this year & tell him you’d like to go on a date with him. Tweet me a screenshot of his response."
After all, whether you are in the camp that believes women should never under any circumstances whatsoever ask a guy out or you firmly stand with the position that equal rights mean equal responsibilities in every single aspect of life, love, dating and relationships, it's tough to argue that aren't certain occasions just begging for us all to go for what we want most with every last drop of gusto we can muster.
If Valentine's Day isn't the one time women should feel perfectly comfortable laying their attraction on the line and making the first move, heaven help us all.
If you've been wondering how to get a guy to like you, or if you think he's already into you and is just too shy to let you know, check out 11 of the messages women sent their crush as part of the Twitter #ValentinesDayChallenge for some real life inspiration.
After all, you'll never know if you never try!
1. Some were a wee bit confusing.
"Will you be my valentine? I'll take you out."
"If you want eat my mind dey."
"What does his response mean pls?"
"If I want to sleep with him, he's in."
To which we all seem to say:
2. And some were a wee bit confused.
"The FBI agent on my phone is laughing at me."
3. Some were so dang sweet you could cry.
"I've never been so anxious in my life, was melting with sweat!!"
4. Who ever said men don't get giddy with excitement?
"Hey. Okay I have a crush on you. Would you like to go on a date with me? On valentine?"
"Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesssssssssssssssssssssss"
5. Unfortunately, love can't all be rainbows and puppy dogs.
"Baby can you be my valentine?"
"You can no longer send Direct Messages to this person."
6. Some were just unclear on the concept.
"Lool. 'SuRe ThInG'"
7. Some could not believe their luck.
"Wanna be my valentine? We can go on a date x"
"lmao wow my WCW just asked me on a date. wow."
8. Over.The.Moon.
"Be my valentine this year, let's go on a date."
"I'm so glad you asked!! I was legit sitting here thinking of the best way to ask you!"
9. Remember, a clever ask never hurts.
"Ummmm close enough right?!"
"Five friends go to the cinema. Steve doesn't want to sit next to Sally, Claire doesn't like sitting in the middle, Barry can't sit on the left side of Steve, if Lesley sits next to Steve, can I sit on your face? I'll even buy popcorn."
"Hahahajaj. Deal."
Senior Editor and happily-former divorce coach/mediator Arianna Jeret is a recognized expert on love, sex, and relationships (except when it comes to her own life, of course) who has been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, Yahoo Style, Fox News, Bustle, Parents and more. Join her Sundays at 10:15 PM EST when she answers ALL of your questions on Facebook Live on YourTango.For more, follow her on Twitter (@ariannajeret) and Instagram (@ariannajer).