7 Reasons Why You Should NEVER Be With A Man Who Doesn't Go Down On You

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2017 is the year of the clit. It's time, everyone. Oral sex makes the world go 'round. Or, at least, it makes your eyes roll around to the back of your head. It’s passionate, it’s selfless, and it is absolutely needed in relationships.

On both sides, mind you. Everyone should be getting some oral sex in a relationship. It’s the spice of life, y’all.

Now, don’t get salty on me when I say things, but it has to be said. No guy worth dating doesn’t give head. This is not up for discussion. This is not a debatable theory I am putting up for scrutiny. No. This is an empirical fact.

Here are 7 reasons why you should never, ever date a guy who won't go down on you.

1. A guy who doesn’t go down is selfish.

If you’re not going to go down on me, who would I ever go down on you? A guy who isn’t willing to give you head is a selfish lover and a selfish person. Going down on a woman is what real men do. It’s so beyond unacceptable to think that you don’t have an obligation to make a woman come.

Two in three women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. That is not an easy prospect through penetrative sex alone. For many of us, oral sex is the only time we can have an orgasm. If you’re depriving me of an orgasm, you can really hit the road. It says a lot more about you than it does about me.

If you’re not going down on a woman because you don’t like or don’t think you need to do it, you’re a selfish person. It’s really not OK.

2. It’s also a self-esteem thing.

We live in a world where women are told on a daily basis that their vaginas are gross, weird, or need changing. We’re told to primp, trim, wash, scrub, and wax our vaginas on every platform, in various forms of media. We’re bombarded with the 411 that we are not good enough.

It takes a LOT, and I do mean A LOT, of self-love, reevaluation, sometimes even therapy to finally understand our own self-worth. Meanwhile, men are told that every single thing they do and say is perfect. They are reassured that they hung the stars.

3. Not getting head will screw you up.

Can you imagine how messed up a woman would be years after coming to terms with learning to love and finally accept her own sex organ only to be rejected for them? I don’t even know where to begin dissecting this one.

Ladies, if a guy you are with won't go down on you: KICK HIM TO THE CURB. Who has time for someone who shames you for something that is a fundamental part of your body? Get out of here.

4. If he won't go down on you, he’s not going to be a good boyfriend.

On that note, a guy who shames you for your body is going to be a terrible boyfriend. I have never once in my life met a guy who was good at relationships and didn’t go down on women. The two things just do not coalesce.

The guys who don’t perform cunnilingus women always seem to think they deserve blowjobs, too. This is just so laughable I cannot even contain myself. If you’re not going down on me, you think I’m gonna down on you? Nope.

If he can’t even lick your clit, how he is supposed to do anything else? Riddle me that.

5. Vaginas are AMAZING.

Can we take a moment to just think about something you may not have even considered? Vaginas are AMAZING. They are INCREDIBLE. And they do unbelievable things. You can push a baby through a vagina and not die. That alone is reason enough to get down on your knees and pray.

Vaginal hygiene methods are essentially designed to exploit female insecurity. Everything from tampons to douching was created by men for the comfort of men. The vagina is a self-cleaning organism that needs NONE of that BS.

Vaginas smell the way they do, look the way they do, and behave the way they do because they are designed that way. Vaginas are beautiful and mesmerizing and magical. If you’re not on board with that, well you don’t deserve to have a girlfriend.

You deserve to be alone forever, TBH. Sorry, but not sorry at all.

6. Orgasms are good for your health.

Orgasms are essential for a happy, healthy life. They release oxytocin (the body's feel-good hormone) and center your overall well-being. You can't be a stellar partner when you're sexually frustrated. Not to mention, if you're not having good sex, you're not going to be inclined to have a lot of sex. 

A guy who isn't giving his lady head is essentially screwing himself.

7. Life is too short to never get head again.

My wonderful ladies, are you really going to spend the rest of your life never having oral sex again? Think about that for a hot second. Is any guy worth never having a tongue on your clitoris for the rest of your life?

I would NEVER date a guy who didn’t go down on me because that is a prerequisite. My orgasm should be a top priority. I don’t care where you went to college. I don’t care if you make a lot of money. I don’t care if you are a sex worker. I don’t care if you live with your parents.

I DO care if you give me head. Priorities, girls. Priorities.