The Devastating Reason Young Girls Stop Believing They're Smart By Age 6

There’s a depressing 2017 study that argues that girls start doubting their own intelligence by age six.

Age six — Isn’t that crazy?

According to the research, published in Science Magazine, when boys and girls are age 4 and 5, both groups are equally apt to say their own genders are “really, really smart” (approximately 70% of each group).

This is why young girls stop believing they're super smart at age 6

However, by age six, boys’ confidence in the intelligence of their own gender remains fairly constant, while girls’ confidence starts to plummet.

Only 48% of six-year-old girls identified their own gender as “really, really smart.” That’s a huge drop.

In the words of the researchers, “The present results suggest a sobering conclusion: Many children assimilate the idea that brilliance is a male quality at a young age. This stereotype begins to shape children’s interests as soon as it is acquired and is thus likely to narrow the range of careers they will one day contemplate.”

As the parent of a young girl, I can tell you that I’ve seen evidence of this trend firsthand and it really, really stinks.

“Dad, I’m terrible at math.”

I hear this a lot from my fifth-grade daughter, despite all evidence to the contrary on her report card. (Her math scores are totally in line with the rest of her grades.)

I don’t remember exactly when it started. She used to be equally enthusiastic about all of her subjects in school. Reading, science, history, and even math. In the beginning, she was just a sponge for knowledge. She’d often talk about how she was going to be an astronaut/movie star when she grew up.

But then, as school progressed, something subtly shifted.

You could see her moving herself away from the hard sciences and aligning herself more towards the humanities. If it was just a matter of talent or personal preference, that would be one thing, but her performance in math and science has never wavered in her schoolwork.

There has never been a performance gap between her work in math or science and her work in any other subject.

However, a confidence gap is readily apparent.

A self-esteem gap. No matter what I (or her teacher) tell her, my daughter does not think that she’s “smart” when it comes to math.

At some point in her education career, my daughter — and many daughters I know — began doubting their abilities. They started demurring. They became self-deprecating.

They began shaking their heads and saying “I don’t know. I’m not good at this” way more than their male classmates, even though, at this age, girls perform stronger academically than boys do.

One of the interesting aspects of this study is that the researchers found that, when they asked six-year-old girls if they wanted to play a game for children who are “really, really smart” or for children who “work really, really hard,” girls were much more likely to opt for the game for “hard workers.”

So girls know they get good grades and they know they work hard, and yet they are still apprehensive to regard themselves as smart.

This gets back to the researchers’ conclusion that I mentioned earlier — When children are young, they assume that brilliance is a male quality.

Which, once again, sucks.

And I’m saying that as the father of a daughter and as a man.

Men are not inherently smarter than women. My often-oblivious gender has just been given less reason to doubt itself over the years.

Why?

That’s the big question at the end of the Science Magazine study. How did this happen? How do we fix it?

In a 2017 NPR story about the research, Sapna Cheryan, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Washington, suggests that various environmental factors probably play a role in the confidence gap — things like stereotypes, media exposure, and “parental beliefs.”

I think you can sum all that up under one word — representation

In society, we are much more apt to cite brilliance in men than we are in women.

There is vast evidence that women are underrepresented in STEM careers (science, technology, engineering, and mathematics). When we see geniuses and scientists in movie and TV roles, they are largely played by men. When kids learn history in school, they hear a lot about figures like Thomas Edison, but female scientists don’t get the same attention.

(There are a lot of historical and social reasons for this — including the fact that many early female scientists were either discouraged from pursuing their academic careers or had men take credit for their work.)

All of these reasons point to why representation matters.

Not too long ago, Lego introduced its first-ever playset featuring female scientists. That matters. The movie Hidden Figures, the true story of the incredible contributions of female African-American mathematicians to the U.S. space program, was a massive success. That matters.

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