Sometimes You Have To Fall Apart To Fall Back Together

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Sometimes, breakups are for good. Sometimes two people have to fall apart in order to fall together.

Two people, who may have been good for each other at one point, are no longer adding value to each other's lives.

Separating is a way of finding happiness again and hopefully love somewhere else. 

That's why sometimes two people have to fall apart.

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Because sometimes, a break is only temporary

There's a saying out there that "you don't know what you've got till it's gone." And sadly, it's a lesson many people have to learn the hard way.

Breaking up can feel like the end of the world, but it might not be. It might be the awful but necessary experience you both needed to go through to figure out what you really want. 

This mindset can be helpful, but also dangerous. 

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If you love someone and you want to be with them, you'll know. You'll know 10 minutes after the breakup or in 10 weeks. Time doesn't matter. 

But if you're going to get back together, you need to make sure it's right.

You have to spend time alone and really figure out if you're with this person for the right reasons. You have to go out and meet people to make sure you know what else is out there.

You have to experience life alone to know if you're better off together. 

What you don't want to do is break up and get back together four times in one week. You want a breakup to mean something, not just be an empty threat you use to scare the other person.

Breaking up means breaking up.

It means being apart and not talking for a while. It's figuring out how you feel when you're really alone.

Like, really alone. 

So if you're going to do this, make sure you do it right.

Really break up, with no promises of getting back together in the future.

If your feelings are strong and real now, then they won't be going anywhere any time soon. 

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Emily Blackwood is an editor at YourTango who covers pop culture, true crime, dating, relationships and everything in between.