Love, Self

Strong Women Don’t Settle For Mediocre Men — They’d Rather Be Alone

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Don’t Settle For Dating Mediocre Men Even When You're Lonely

Dating can be full of disappointments, often one right after the other. 

When you're single, your line of potential suitors is usually made up of 60% weirdos, 20% emotionally unavailable douchebags, 15% ex-boyfriends and 5% guys you'd actually want to date.

Even if there are plenty of fish in the sea, a lot of those fish kinda suck. 

So when the stars align and by some miracle you find a guy you like, it's easy to get too excited too fast. 

But there's a big danger in placing all your eggs in one basket. 


Sure, there are people who meet and instantly fall in love and are together forever, but that's more of an exception than a rule. The rule is that you should never assume someone wants to be exclusive until you're actually exclusive. 

When you're first getting to know someone who you instantly click with, there's a tendency to overinflate the parts of their personality you like and ignore the parts you don't.

You focus on the fact that he makes you laugh and not that he hasn't had a job in six months. You tell all your friends how tall and protective he is and leave out the part about his anger issues. 

While it's totally human to want things to go well for once in your love life, you have to resist the urge to accept less out of fear of being alone. 


Taking the time to get to know someone before you commit to them is essential to protecting your heart.

You shouldn't give in just because you're tired of waiting. 

If you find yourself getting caught up in a daydream about the guy you like, force yourself back into reality. Compare what you're envisioning to what's really happening and see if there's a big difference. If so, you might want to pump the breaks on your emotions and find some other ways to distract yourself before you get too caught up. 

Trust me, the last thing you want to do is settle.