I Shut Down & Don't Talk To People For Days (Please Don't Take It Personally)

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Shutting Down And Avoiding People When Stressed Is OK

I'm a big fan of personal space — especially when life gets stressful. 

Some people need to surround themselves with a big support system when everything seems too much — and that's totally okay.

But for me, it's almost like the more people I have around, the more stressed I get. 

In these situations, the best thing I can do for myself (and for everyone in my life) is to check out for a couple days. I

t's not like I'm going on some extended mountain retreat to stare off into the sunset and think about life, though that would be awesome.

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But really, I just need to sit on my couch, take long baths and think about nothing for a change. 


No matter much I try to explain it to people who aren't like this, they don't seem to get it.

They want to take it personal and blow up my phone with a million messages demanding me to talk to them and make some huge decision on a whim. 

But that's not who I am.

I have to take time, move slow and think things through. I have to process. And I owe it to myself to give myself that time. 

When I don't, I make some really shitty emotionally-driven decisions. 

So this is my final plea, and I hope my fellow space-needers can back me up. 

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When I say I need time to be alone, I need some fucking time to be alone.

Don't call me. Don't text me. Don't send a carrier pigeon. 

Anyone who doesn't respect what you personally need — especially when it comes to your mental health — then they don't need to be in your life.

Make room for people who want to understand.

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Emily Blackwood is a writer and editor who focuses on pop culture and relationships.