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How To Get Over Your Ex For Good With These 10 Post-Breakup Tips

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Fuhgeddaboudit.

You thought you and your ex would have a beautiful, everlasting romance until he announced that he wasn't feeling it anymore. You're left shell-shocked, in a state of confusion and despair, and filled with anger and remorse, unable to learn how to move on.

After the breakup, one question keeps ringing through your head over and over again: How will I go on with out him?


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When there's no chance of rekindling the romance you once had, sometimes you're left with only one choice: Move on. Here's how to get over your ex,  forget about him, and move on:

1. Change your frame of mind.

Our minds are so incredibly powerful that you can control your thinking, even when you think you can’t. He's holding important space in your mind, and it's time to kick him out! He's no longer welcome anymore.

2. Close the door.

When you start to think of him, visualize a beautiful, large red door and slam it firmly closed. Then immediately change your thoughts to something fun, relaxing and/or positive. You are in control, and you're choosing positivity.

3. Stop snooping on his social media.

You can't watch him on social media to see what he's doing or who he's with. Social media makes everyone look happy, so this will only hurt you! Block him so it's not even a temptation.

4. Don't ask friends for updates.

Hearing what he's doing with his new woman or friends is just a way to hurt yourself and prolong the pain, so stop asking.

5. Don't drive by his house.

Stay away from his house. No late night drive-bys to see who's there. Out of sight, out of mind.

6. Delete his number.

Erase his numbers and email from your phone (and all electronics), just in case you're tempted to try to contact him in a weak moment. Stay strong. You can do this!


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7. Stop talking about him.

You can discuss the ordeal with your friends when it happens, but do not keep rehashing it. If you feel the need to understand it better, counseling is a great way to deal with this.

8. Keep yourself busy.

Push yourself to get out and be with your friends, family or start something new. Try a new hobby — exercising, group activities, anything that keeps your mind occupied.

9. Start journaling.

Writing is very therapeutic and helps you heal. It's important to journal the negative experiences because our minds have a way of only remembering the good times when we're lonely.

10. Use positive affirmations daily.

Every morning and evening give yourself affirmations to build your self-esteem. We project our feelings to others, so use positive thoughts to attract  healthy people into your life.


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Deni Abbie is a Certified Life Coach and Hypnotherapist. For a free 15 minute consultation, visit Deni Abbie Hypnosis or www.Lovinglife.us.

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