10 Different Types Of Guys — And What Your Attraction To Them Says About You

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If you keep winding up on dates with the same type of guy, over and over again, this post is for you.

There are things we should know about our own character and personality that make us susceptible to attracting and staying with unbalanced partners.

If the types of men you attract tend to be the ones that always leave you heartbroken, it is important to pay attention to what's causing you to be attracted to this person in the first place.

Doing so can help bring a healthier type of man into your life.

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What type of guys get the most girls? There are 4 types of men that typically get the most girls and those are the adventurous guy, the athlete, the musician, and the cool guy.

What type of man are you attracted to says a lot about you and who you are as a person. Read on to find out what the type of guy you date says about you.

The following are ten different types of guys women date and what dating these types of men could say about you.

1. Mr. Narcissist.

His charm, talent, success, beauty, and charisma cast a spell on you and everyone around. His conversation is scintillating and he has to be the leader. Once hooked, however, you battle with his demands, criticisms, and self-centeredness.

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean:

You are also narcissistic. If you're a narcissist, the common misconception is that you love you some you. Actually, you dislike yourself immensely. Your inflated self-flattery, perfectionism, and arrogance are merely covers for the self-loathing you don't admit — usually even to yourself.

Narcissists often attract and it's very dangerous. They'll need each other one minute and fight the next over whose needs come first. Narcissism can be healed with courage, time, and a commitment to yourself.

2. Mr. Emotionally Unavailable.

He doesn't eagerly show up for you. He is full of excuses and is indecisive. He talks about his past a lot. He's quick to claim he likes you but he's not looking for a committed relationship for whatever reasons.

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean

You look for these types of guys to date if you don't feel deserving. Not feeling worthy typically originates because someone significant failed to stand up for you earlier in life. Someone essential to supporting your life wasn't there, or was abusive, or was neglectful. As a result, you came away with a deep-down feeling that you are not worthy.

To correct this trait, it is important to begin by confronting (and often forgiving) the person who originally failed you.

3. Mr. Needs-To-Be-Fixed.

He feels "beneath" you. You consider him a diamond in the rough. The man who stands before you today isn't great but he sure does have potential. Dating him feels like a project.

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean:

You're an over-compensator and you often make excuses for something or for what someone has done. Therefore, you walk into most relationships with extreme patience and a toolkit, ready to fix everything.

This trait mostly comes as a result of overcompensating for some error or mistake in your own life. In order to really prove yourself to be someone worth dating, stop trying to make up for what you either missed out on or something you did in your past that's done and over with.

4. Mr. Commitment-Phobe.

He has a history of short relationships and may never have been married and doesn't want to be a husband. He has several excuses for why he hasn't met the right woman. He has justified his history by saying he has plenty of time to settle down. One of his favorite lines is "someday."

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean:

You're needy. Being persistently needy, whether it's emotionally or otherwise, means you're going to attract men who feel the need to "rescue" a woman (but not necessarily commit to her). Being needy means you thrive on the attention you get from men, no matter how little or infrequent.

This is commonly seen in women who had abrupt endings to past relationships. In order to meet a secure man wanting to commit, you have to be a secure woman who upholds her "relationship vitals."

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5. Mr. Parasite.

He gets help at your expense and assisting him often puts you in harm's way. Neither you nor the relationship benefits from what he takes from you.

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean:

You are insecure. Being insecure and having low self-esteem can attract needy and clingy men who use you. It's important to have your self-esteem in order before you begin dating so that it sends a message to parasitic men that you don't need them. Women who are secure with themselves are less likely to attract parasitic men.

6. Mr. Bully.

These types of boys are actually the worst. He blames you for things that aren't your fault. He talks to you like you are a child. He uses an intimidating tone to others when asking for help. He criticizes your character and possibly even your children.

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean:

You have problems maintaining emotional boundaries. You don't instinctively know where to draw the lines of emotional responsibility between yourself and others. You seek to win over others by pleasing them or casting yourself in a favorable light, to your detriment.

This boundary issue typically stems from carrying the burden of others' emotions for which you aren't responsible. When you become clear about where to take responsibility and where your emotional responsibility ends, you can better manage the boundaries.

7. Mr. Pushover.

He will agree with anything you say. He has low self-esteem. He has no sense of self-confidence. He is unable to voice or argue his opinions or desires.

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean:

You are a controlling woman who tends to appear to have their stuff together. If you're a controlling woman, you easily attract (or should I say, go after and find) pushover men. These men love you because they identify in you elements of maturity they don't possess.

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Unfortunately, most of these guys never evolve and instead permanently take the role of "yes men." It's best, if you're this type of woman, to stay clear of these types of guys and stay with more complementary personalities.

8. Mr. Taken.

He's married, engaged, a father, or in a relationship with another woman. Please note, if he's married and only separated, it still means he's married.

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean:

You have low self-esteem and no self-love. No matter the excuse, if you're carrying on a "relationship" with someone who is in another relationship, you are exhibiting one of the lowest forms of self-love and self-respect. If you're "dating" a cheater, you are in fact a cheater yourself and are likely to be snide towards the people closest to you.

Chances are, your family and friends have voiced concern over whom you're involved with and as a result, your relationship with them has grown strained. While I don't believe friends and family are the best relationship experts, if they all are telling you the same thing, listen!

9. Mr. Cool Guy.

He's probably in a band, has a killer fashion sense, great hair or beard, and is the coolest dude. He's been traveling all over the world and has so many stories to tell. He's also really smart and knows what's trendy and cool. 

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean:

If you're attracted to Mr. Cool, odds are you don't think you're cool and that hyping up this man up and dating him will make you effortlessly cool and your friends jealous. You're way too obsessed with the types of guys' looks because you want others to think the two of you look great together and that's what matters. 

You also feel like you have to change yourself to keep up with this man so that's why you date him. You'll have to buy a whole new wardrobe and develop and grow your music taste to even be seen with this man because his validation means everything to you. 

If you're this type of woman, you need to learn how to be more confident. Don't let this "cool guy" make you feel uncool and unworthy. Love yourself for who you are and don't let other people change you. 

10. Mr. Perfect on paper.

Check, check, and check, he's the guy that ticks all your boxes but what is the thing that makes him the worst? He's got the job, the looks, the body, and the brains so you convince yourself that he's the perfect guy, even if there's no strong connection. 

What being attracted to this type of guy could mean:

You are too focused on finding the one that you are way too picky and if this one guy has everything you want but no chemistry then you tell yourself that's good enough. However, chemistry and a strong emotional and physical connection blow away all the ticks in the boxes. You need to stop being so picky and let love find you, you can't hunt for it yourself. 

You have way too many expectations for men and you need to calm that down. Nobody is perfect and sometimes you have to make exceptions for love. Don't be that person who always has to find something wrong with the guy you're dating. 

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Paul Carrick Brunson is an entrepreneur, tv host, and columnist. An internationally recognized expert in interpersonal relationships and personal development, he serves as a columnist for USA Today, and co-host of UK’s Celebs Go Dating tv show.

This article was originally published at Essence. Reprinted with permission from the author.