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10 Things Twenty-Somethings Need To Learn About Sex

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Hey kids, it’s time to learn. We covered all the things twenty-somethings need to learn about love, so naturally it's time to tackle sex.

1. You have not peaked. Thought your hormones might be at an all time high, emotionally and creatively, you've still got a lot of years of amazing sex ahead of you.

2. You need to use a condom. Seriously. We're not kidding, kids. Just because she might be on the pill doesn't mean you should go bareback. STDs abound, and not all of them can be cured with a course of penicillin. 

3. Do not play fast and loose with your birth control. As point number 2 illustrates, you should take birth control seriously. Take your pill at the same time every day, know the effects of antibiotics on female birth control, and always, always verify that your partner is safe.

4. Sex with a committed partner is usually better. Unless you are someone who really loves getting your rocks off with a stranger, committed-sex is actually better. I know, I know, you think you would grow bored with just one person, but studies have proven that a deep emotional connection leads to better orgasms.

5. It's okay to have a higher-than-average number of sexual partners. So long as you are practicing safe sex, get your freak on. It's okay to experiment!

6. The "pull out" method does NOT work. We'd like to think they would have drilled this one into you in high school, but just to be clear, pulling out still carries the risk of pregnancy and STD transmission. Why, you ask? Two words: pre-cum.

7. If you want to say no, say no. You are under no obligation to go along with something just because you feel you have to, or to please your partner. If you change your mind mid-way through and want to stop, say so. A respectful, mature partner will respect that.

8. It's okay to try new things. When it comes to partners and moves, feel free to experiment. Read books, check out movies, talk to your friends. So long as everyone is safe and consenting, do you thing!

9. And speaking of experimenting, don't assume that your sexuality is set in stone. Sexuality is a fluid thing. While you might not have been attracted to the same or opposite sex in your teens, that may change. Most people are pretty firm in their sexuality by this point, but don't rule out a new experience just because you are sure you're straight or gay.

10. You are gorgeous. No matter what you may think about yourself ("I'm too tall, I'm fat, I've got bad skin.") you need to remember that it's all in your head. It's time to release the insecurities that have been holding you back and impeding your sex life. Remember, confidence is the sexiest thing a person can project. So go out and rock that beautiful body!