Why Won't He Have Sex With Me?


He does not want to sleep with me. It's been three weeks and nothing. Not just nothing—I mean the complete absence of sexuality in an awkward, platonic way. We go out to dinner several nights a week and we kiss, hug, and hold hands in public. I've met most of his friends at this point and we've even spent nights together. And yet, nothing. I have tried every trick in the book to get him to seal the deal—I've smooched and even fondled him. And yet Matt remands steadfast and as abstinent as a priest. The Frisky: Guys, You're Not The Only Ones Who Hate Condoms

But here's the thing. I happen to know that Matt has slept with most of Williamsburg, Brooklyn, the Lower East Side and a good portion off Philadelphia. Matt has bedded models, socialites, hipsters, aging party girls, 19-year-old scenesters and trust funders who are going through transitional periods waiting for real careers to take off.  I know all of these facts because he and his attractive tortured artist routine managed to nab two of my girlfriends who were more then willing to divulge all details of his sex life. "He is one of the slimiest guys I have ever met," my friend Jen said. "Don't date him. You'll regret it." The Frisky: 10 Hobbies Guaranteed To Make Any Woman Sexier

In all, he's slept with 150 women. If you ask him why he has decided to fornicate (besides obvious reasons) with most of the Tri-State area, he simple states that sex, much like drinking, is a recreational activity that can be enjoyed all the time with anyone.

With all of this you would think he would be chomping at the bit to get in my pants. Yet quite the opposite is happening. I can't put my finger on the phenomenon that is taking place. I have never had to make the first move, especially when it comes to sex.  Usually when there is a sexual standoff, I initiate it. I am the type of girl who keeps my legs glued together and my morals constantly in check. The Frisky: 13 Reasons He Won't Have Sex With You, Even After A Hot Date

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My puritan ways go so far that I can tell you everyone I have slept with in chronological order. The thought of sleeping with random men creeps me out and invokes an "eww" factor I can't shake. Being vigilant in the fight against intercourse comes surprisingly easy for me. My mother is a nurse. Growing up in California I was slightly and morbidly obsessed with flipping through the pages of medical textbooks. Also, I'm sure it does not help that my mom once drew me a chart about promiscuity that haunts me to this day. The chart mostly consisted of me finding a partner who has slept with everyone in the whole world leaving me to die alone pregnant and STD-ridden. I do not blame her for her crusade of abstinence. I have probably dodged many bullets and heartache because of all her vigilant efforts. The Frisky: MERRIMe, A New Web Comedy About Online Dating