Learning how to masturbate is a great way to find out what turns you on and what kinds of physical touching and fantasies make you most likely to reach the big 'O'. This article is going to show you exactly what to do to masturbate (with your hands or toys) as well as showing you some great ways to expand your range of fantasies.
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Getting In The Mood - The most important thing you can do if you want to be sure that you climax when masturbating is first getting in the mood. Getting in the mood is something that varies greatly from person to person.
For some, they find that all they need to do is lie down on their bed to get in the mood. While for others, they like to drag it out by having a shower, applying some body lotion all over their body, lighting some candles, playing their favorite music and putting on something really comfortable before sitting down on a nice comfy chair.
Ensure Privacy - If you want to truly relax and get in the mood before you start masturbating, then make sure that you won't be disturbed by anyone.
For most people, this means masturbating in their bedroom or doing it when their roommates/parents/partner is not in the house. You might also find turning your phone to silent is a good idea too. This means that if you like getting vocal as you masturbate, you won't have to worry about someone hearing you.
Your Clit - Most find that having a clitoral orgasm is far easier than having a vaginal orgasm when learning how to masturbate, so first we are going to focus on the clit. If you don't already know about your clit, it's the small nub of firm skin the gets slightly bigger when you're aroused. It's located just above your vagina and is concealed under small folds of skin. It's very sensitive, especially right after you climax.
To stimulate it, try gently rubbing it with your fingers. You may find that it's so sensitive, that it's actually more pleasurable to provide it with indirect stimulation, rubbing around it, instead of touching it directly.
It's best if you start off massaging it slowly and gently and gradually build up how intensely you touch it as you are reaching climax. Then as you climax, ease right off as it will be incredibly sensitive to touch.
Hitting Your G Spot - Another type of orgasm, that many prefer to regular clitoral orgasms, is the G Spot orgasm. But before you can start stimulating it, you need to actually find the G Spot. It only appears and becomes engorged when you are aroused.
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