Oral sex is a highly intimate sex act. Many people actually find oral sex to be way more intimate than intercourse. Perhaps this is because oral sex triggers a lot of feelings of vulnerability and it can be emotionally intense to let someone so close to your most sensitive parts. Yet oral sex is also one of the most pleasurable, orgasmic sex acts, so learning how to enjoy it fully is an essential step in loving your sex life.
Oral sex positions do more than create specific angles and access to sensitive spots: they communicate your feelings and excitement about receiving oral sex. In researching our book The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Cunnilingus, we surveyed thousands of men and women about what they find sexy about oral sex. The overwhelming response was that those giving oral sex want their lovers to demonstrate their enthusiasm and excitement by participating. The biggest turn-off? Giving oral sex to someone who stayed still and silent. Exploring new oral sex positions can help you open up new channels to communicate your pleasure and arousal while receiving, and make giving oral pleasure a lot more fun as well. Here are a few positions to experiment with as you lean back and enjoy the pleasures of oral sex.
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#1: The Classic: Relax and Receive
The classic oral sex position for women receiving cunnilingus is a classic for a reason. One of the reasons oral sex is so pleasurable is the opportunity to lie back, relax and receive pleasure. Getting comfortable in bed and allowing your lover to lavish you with pleasure is a delicious and simple oral sex position.
You can experiment with a few modifications to make this classic oral sex position even more pleasurable.
- Uncover! Don’t make your lover suffocate under the sheets while going down on you. Throw off the covers and allow your lover to breathe freely while pleasuring you. The bonus? You get to feast your eyes on your hot lover in between your thighs. Make it even more intimate by making eye contact as your lover continues to pleasure you!
- Try placing a pillow under your hips to elevate your pelvis, giving your lover a bit more breathing room. Experiment with two or three pillows to gain more height. This position is also ideal for adding in fingering techniques to oral sex, a sure fire way to maximize your orgasmic potential and hit all your pleasure zones at once!
- Plant your feet on the mattress, allowing you to push off your feet and move your hips. This can be your first step in becoming a more active receiver during oral sex. By shifting your hips a little up and down, or to the right and left, you can help your lover’s tongue find your most sensitive spots. Once you gain more confidence and are ready to go wild, try moving your hips in circles and undulating waves to maximize your pleasure!
- You can also try adapting the classic oral sex position by wrapping your legs around your lover’s shoulders. This can be slightly acrobatic, so try it for short bursts and see how you feel in this position. Wrapping your legs around your lover’s shoulders is a way of communicating your enthusiasm and excitement during oral sex, and your lover may enjoy feeling the skin of your legs and thighs. Remember that enthusiasm while receiving oral sex is infinitely sexy: by offering yourself up and clutching your lover’s head between your thighs you are participating more fully, communicating your desire and excitement for oral stimulation.
If you want to take control of your pleasure and give your lover an overwhelming experience, try the Queening oral sex position. Like a true queen, you take your throne — by sitting on your lover’s face! Get your lover comfortable lying down in bed and then kneel over them, presenting your most intimate parts for them to pleasure. You can kneel up or down in order to control how much they can reach you, move your hips for your own pleasure, and even experiment with engulfing their face in your flesh for short intense bursts. Don’t be shy about suggesting this position: many guys fantasize about this experience and find it a total turn-on. Queening is truly an empowering experience, so if you are ready to claim your erotic power and beauty, assume the throne!
#3: Doggy Style
Ready to get primal? Get on all fours and allow him to stimulate you while you move and rock your hips. He can either be totally behind you, if you are comfortable with his face so close to all your parts, or he can lie down and use his mouth around your clitoris. Enhance the primal experience of this position by making lots of noise, expressing your pleasure with moans, groans and even growls!
#4: Recline and Receive
If you have a comfortable recliner or reading chair, try putting a pillow on the floor in front of you, scooting to the edge of the chair and inviting your partner to kneel in front of you. This can also work on the edge of a bed. Inviting your lover to kneel in front of you and perform oral sex is a delicious way to allow them to worship your lovely body.
Oral Sex Positions for Simultaneous Oral Pleasure
We all know the classic 69 position, but very few people can actually reach orgasm in this position. One of the greatest things about oral sex is taking turns. One person gets to totally relax and receive, and the other person can focus on giving as much pleasure as possible. 69 can be really distracting, and most people just end up moaning and gasping rather than focusing on giving. Try the 67 position: the giver on top of the receiver, but with their body off to the side a bit. This way, you can enjoy the full body contact of having your lover on top of you while you are being pleasured, but without the distraction of having to give at the same time. Keep reading...
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