How To Date Like A Dude


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Six tendencies of single men that women would benefit from emulating.

Believe it or not, there are some ways women can benefit from taking a cue from our male counterparts. John Gray says that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and I agree. So, let's take a look at what we can learn from our Martian brothers.

1. Men don't tend to be drama queens. They keep their personal business to themselves rather than seeking attention for it. They strive to be brave and show no weakness, only strength. So often, women remark about their partners, "Getting him to talk about his problems is like pulling teeth." By nature, men are controlled and competitive; they keep their emotions to themselves.


Women are hard-wired to talk and "get out" our feelings, which might be one of the reasons why we live longer. We don't hold things in. But we can learn to tone this tendency down. If you really need to express yourself, try writing in a journal, talking to a therapist, spiritual counselor or girlfriend. In her book Enchanted Love, Marianne Williamson writes, "There's nothing more powerful than a woman who knows how to contain her power and not let it leak, standing firmly within it in mystery and silence. A woman who talks too much sheds her allure."

2. Men take care of themselves first. Men aren't ready to take care of all of your problems, clean your house, run your errands and rub your feet after the first date. They generally take care of themselves first. For a man, listening to a woman's problems is a lot of work, because he feels like he has no choice but to solve all them. Women are naturally nurturing and caregivers. It is a wonderful quality be to caring and loving, but don't be afraid to be a bit selfish, take care of yourself first and let the man fend for himself.

Women, on the other hand, seem to believe that the more they do for a man, the more he will appreciate her and want to be with her. Not so. He will probably be grateful, but he won't respect you, and he will expect you to take care of all the details, all of the time.

When in early stages of dating, never do for a man what he can do for himself or hire someone to do. You are not a maid, a caterer, errand runner or a laundromat. You have a life and a career to tend to as well. Of course it is great to reciprocate if he takes you out a lot. Be a classy person like you would with a girlfriend, but there is no need to act like his mommy and jump in and take care of everything. Keep Reading ...

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