Just grow up already!
While there’s some truth in the phrase “boys will be boys,” it’s also true that some boys want to remain boys their entire lives.
There are many guys that stay in a suspended adolescence, refusing to become adults. They avoid adult responsibilities, are self-obsessed, and do whatever they can to delay adulthood. They grow older but they never grow up.
It’s clear when a guy is experiencing Peter Pan Syndrome or is stuck in Adultolesence; he will let everybody else do the work and never step up to the plate. He doesn’t make plans as he doesn't have a clear idea of his future and hopes that will work out without too much effort on his part.
The boy/man doesn’t spend his money wisely and just believes that — like when he was growing up — a more responsible adult figure will take care of him. He’s never the caretaker and if you’re dating him, don’t expect him to bring you soup or nurse you back to health; he’s too busy playing video games.
He hates confrontation so don’t expect him to be your advocate. He doesn’t have your back — he doesn’t have anybody’s back. He wants to maintain his own comfort level and anything that threatens that is mostly ignored. When it comes to sex, it’s all about his needs just like any other teenage boy whose body is racing with hormones.
Don’t expect him to make a good impression when you bring him home to meet the parents because that would mean he’d have to bring something to the conversation and he’s more about relying on others.
The guy who will never grow up thinks his boyishness is charming and that it should be enough to captivate you, but he’s more of a waste of time than anything. When a guy refuses to grow up, it’s not very attractive, and no matter how charming and hot he may be, a boy/man is more pathetic than anything.
Here's how to know he will never grow up, based on his zodiac sign.
He acts like he's an independent contractor and rarely remembers to include you. It's all about having fun and doing whatever enters his mind as a cool thing to do. He never considers the consequences of his actions or what could go wrong — if it seems like a laugh, he's down with it.
He lives in a very juvenile situation. He may still live with his parents, returned to his parents' home after trying to live on his own, or he lives with a ton of roommates like he's still living in a frat house. He probably isn't capable of making rent each month, paying his bills and, if left to his own devices, he'll eat pizza four times a week.
His fear of commitment is ridiculous. He can't even commit to caring for a pet or a car payment. Forget about him committing to you and taking it to the next level — he isn't mature enough.
He'll talk your ear off talking about his feelings and how he's been hurt, but he won't take responsibility for his part in the relationships that went sour or the issues that he's had. He doesn't learn from his mistakes and repeats them over and over again.
He's hopeless at doing the most basic of household chores. He most likely has someone else do his laundry and he doesn't even know the first thing about cooking, vacuuming, cleaning, and washing the dishes. Do not go into his bathroom if you can possibly avoid it — it's disgusting.
He may have a job but he certainly doesn't have a career. Oh, he'll tell you all about his amazing talents and his big dreams but he isn't focused enough to actually do anything about it. He's perfectly content to work at a go-nowhere, part-time job that isn't too strenuous or taxing. He'd rather surf the internet than get his resume in order.
He acts like a child all the time. He doesn't just have a moment here and there when he doesn't act his age; it's constant. He will have a temper tantrum if he doesn't get his way or pout instead of telling you that he's angry with you. He can't keep it together and act like an adult even when the circumstances dictate it. Yeah, he's the guy who busts a gut laughing at a funeral or is completely inappropriate during a job interview.
There's one adult pleasure that he enjoys and that's sex. However, sex is all about him getting his rocks off, not about whether his partner has their needs met. He rushes to have sex, does it quickly, and then falls into a blissful sleep convinced that he's a stud. You'd think that he'd at least be creative with sex but the basics are good enough for him.
When you try to get him to take your relationship seriously, he just can't. He makes jokes and does foolish things to make you laugh just to avoid talking about taking it to the next level. He's fine with things the way they are and he doesn't want to have an adult relationship. His tastes are the same as a teenage boy's: lots of Star Wars, Star Trek, Transformers, and any and all superheroes.
He truly believes that he can date someone completely out of his league. He may be a slob and kind of a loser but he wants his woman to be incredible: beautiful, rich, brilliant, and can take care of him and give him the lifestyle he thinks he deserves.
He indulges himself in every way. He doesn't have one beer, he has two; he goes out every night partying and most likely has tried every illegal substance out there. He thinks whatever addiction he has makes him seem like an artist or just cool. He has no impulse control and if he wants something, even if it's bad for him, he's going to have it.
He's under the delusion that he's going to live forever so he doesn't pay any attention to his health. Forget regular check-ups — they're no fun. If he has something weird or unusual going on with his body, he just ignores it, even when it gets worse. When it finally can't be ignored, he'll go to the free clinic because he won't have health insurance unless somebody else bought it for him.