In today's society where – thankfully – equal playing fields are in, and chauvinism and machismo are out, the alpha male can easily get a bad rap.
Take Don Draper. As much as one enjoys watching the Mad Men lead, you'd have to be nuts to actually enter into a relationship with a guy like him. But, in doing some research, it's clear that the domineering, sexist stereotype of the alpha male may not be entirely correct. It turns out there are some very good, very sexy reasons why a confident, driven alpha male could be worth your dating while.
Now I know you may be thinking: I tend to be the dominant force in my relationships, and I'd like to keep it that way thankyouverymuch. Not to fear: a true alpha male is so secure in his manhood, he's comfortable taking turns and letting his lady lead.
This is exactly the case in a sexy new romance series called Fifth Avenue, hitting bookshelves this summer. While the men are alpha-male strong – the female characters are forces to be reckoned with, too, and the men wouldn’t have them any other way.
If you've had it with passive, emo guys, here are five very good reasons to date an alpha male instead.
1. Intense eye contact. Alpha males, of both the human and animal variety, are not quick to avert their gaze from eye contact as "beta" or other less dominant males are wont to do. Dog owners, for example, will often "stare down" their dogs in order to prove dominance while training them. Whether or not being trained like a dog is your thing (hey, it could be), dating a guy who has the confidence to meet your gaze – and hold it – is pretty sexy.
2. He's resilient. Alpha males are persistent. They know what they want – and they work hard to get it. This is good news for you and your potential alpha male boyfriend. As leading depression researcher, Peter D. Kramer asserts: happiness is not the opposite of depression, resilience is. Bouncing back from rejection and overcoming difficulties are much easier with a positive belief that one can and will, in fact, get over this hurdle and even thrive in the process. Dating a man who persists in meeting his goals – be it in his career or in the bedroom – as an alpha male does, means dating someone who picks himself up by his own bootstraps; he doesn't wait around for you to do it.
3. He's optimistic. One of the keys to being resilient is to have an optimistic outlook on life. This is really good news for alpha males, as research shows that optimistic people tend to be more successful. This is also good news for those who date alpha males, as studies show that not only is optimism contagious but that having an optimistic spouse can help you stay healthy as you age.
4. He's outgoing. Think of the typical alpha male in a social setting. Chances are he's the one working the room, laughing and joking, unafraid to approach a woman who strikes his fancy. Alpha males tend to be outgoing, and the good news for you dating one is that extraverted people – that is, people who draw their energy from being around other people – tend to be happier. And just as with optimism, happiness tends to spread. Not only will you have a guy who’s able to hold his own at your work get-together, probability is high that your extroverted guy and, by extension, you are going to be happier than that brooding wallflower type you used to date.
5. He’s not "model" hot – and that's a good thing. While alpha males tend to attract women, it’s not necessarily with their looks. Confidence, sociability and optimism are much hotter to women – in the long run, yes, but even in the semi-long run (like after the third date) – than model features and six-pack abs. Don't get me wrong, we'll take those, but as the cherries on top, not the foundation of the sundae. The problem with men who are too attractive is that, in some ways, they've had it too easy – and remember, being an alpha male is all about overcoming and working tirelessly to meet your goals. Not to mention, research shows that in marriages where the husband is less attractive than the wife, both partners tend to be happier.
Need more inspiration to give that alpha guy a try? Check out the hot new Fifth Avenue romance series and say hello to the steamiest beach reads of 2014. The first book, Avenge Me and its prequel Take Me, hits bookshelves in June.
In Maisey Yates' stunning Fifth Avenue opening, Avenge Me, Austin Treffen is so alpha that he’ll even take down his own father in the pursuit of what is right and just. But it's not only the public forum that he's determined to have his way. Deliciously dominant in the bedroom, he proves irresistible to Katy Michaels, a woman who is ready to meet him every step of the way.
The heat continues with Scandalize Me, where alpha meets alpha in a game you don't want to miss. It's Caitlin Crew's second in the trilogy, and here the story offers up Hunter, one of the sexiest men alive - with a body honed from being the bad boy of American football. But beneath this sculpted six pack lies a heart of gold that is only revealed by Zoe Brook, the woman sent to straighten out his reputation.
In the jaw-dropping conclusion to the Fifth Avenue trilogy, Expose Me by Kate Hewitt, Alex, like all good alphas, has worked his way up from nothing to become the head of a global media empire. With the world at his fingertips, he provides the final revenge against the villain of the piece. But he needs one woman to help him accomplish this: Chelsea Maxell, talk show host extraordinaire – but she's has her own agenda and is determined to get something from their deal!
To find out more information, visit www.harlequin.com/fifthavenue.