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By Susie & Otto Collins — Written on Oct 24, 2012
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"In the doghouse? Try some flowers! $7.99 for a dozen carnations."
We recently saw this message on the marquee for a florist in our city and we had to wonder ... really? If you've done something to anger, upset or piss off your partner, will a bunch of carnations really make it all better?!
Probably not.
In fact, you could purchase for your partner the most expensive bouquet of exotic flowers you can find and still not erase whatever you've done or the pain he or she feels.
To be "in the doghouse" in a relationship means you have made a mistake that's led to conflict and disconnection. Because of what you did (or what your partner thinks you did), he or she wants nothing to do with you for the time being.
Because of this, you're not sleeping on the couch, but out in the backyard in the dog's house!
Stereotypically and historically, this phrase referred to a man who did something so wrong his girlfriend or wife was irate. Today, both women and men in heterosexual and LGBTQ relationships can find themselves "in the doghouse."
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