Masturbating should always be a fun and pleasurable experience, ending in a body-shaking, quivering goodness. That's why I want to give you these four incredible techniques on how to bring yourself to orgasm. Now some of these techniques may be a bit on the wild side for you, but I really hope that you will at least try them once. (If you want to learn my best dirty talking tips & techniques for building sexual tension and turning him on, you'll find them in this powerful video.) But before you you even try one of these masturbation techniques, you'll want to set the mood for sensuality by stimulating your senses.
- Setting The Mood: First, you need to choose a nice scent for your room from perfumes to deodorants or incense. The choice is ultimately up to you. You then need to set up the lighting in the room. You may prefer it to be very dark or you may like having the lights only slightly dimmed to be best. Next, eat or drink an aphrodisiac. Nibble on some dark chocolate, sip on champagne or bite into a few juicy strawberries — anything that entices your tastebuds. Turn up some music to add to the experience, whether it's some jazzy tunes or a quiet instrumental soundtrack — whatever you choose needs to relax you. Lastly — and most importantly — you need to think about touch and what you feels good on your skin, besides your own hands. (Think a silky smooth nightie.) The final thing for setting the mood is thinking about what positions are going to work best for masturbating. Lying on your back is the obvious choice, but there are hundreds of others. In fact, you'll find over 100 different sexual positions (with professional photographs) on this site here.
- The "Barely There" Technique: This is by far the simplest technique — and it's all in the flick of a finger. To get set up, you need to lie down on your back and get comfortable. You are going to be masturbating using only one finger. The trick in this technique is in its subtlety. Rather than just touching and rubbing yourself, you are going to be making only the slightest amount of contact with your genitals. It should be a feather-like touch, moving your finger from side to side or up and down. The interesting thing about this technique is that it's incredibly similar to teasing yourself. You're definitely getting pleasure from it, but you'll notice that you never give yourself enough pleasure to push you over the edge. So in many ways, you should consider this masturbation technique as something similar to one person foreplay. You can also incorporate this technique when you are giving your man a blow job too. Just use a tiny amount of pressure to prolong it and make it extra satisfying. If you want more tips on how to give your man incredible oral sex, you may be interested in this video where I'll teach you everything you need to know about pleasing your man with your mouth.
- The "Round And Around" Technique: The round and around technique is great for arousing yourself and ultimately making your orgasm more powerful when you eventually peak. This is, again, ,because it's sort of like foreplay for masturbation — teasing and turning yourself on. As you can probably guess from the name, you are going to be focusing on your more sensitive areas. These are places like your breasts and inner thighs. However, because everyone's body is different, you may find that the small of your neck or the inside of your elbows are particularly sensitive to touch. After 20 minutes of this, it's time to move your hands to your more erogenous areas. Still teasing, toughen the touch to caress your nipples and breasts. Tantalize yourself for what's about to happen next.
- The "Put On A Show" Technique: This last masturbation technique is one for your partner's pleasure as well as your own. You probably already know that guys are primarily turned on by visual cues (and why they love pornography, after all). So why not use this fact to your advantage and put on a show for your man. The easiest way to do this is during foreplay with your man. Ask him if he would like a demonstration of what you enjoy the most. He is very unlikely to say no. Now just because you are putting on a show, it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to be dramatic. Don't feel like you have to talk dirty or even moan and groan while masturbating in front of him. Just focus on enjoying yourself. Trust us when we say, it will be enough to drive him crazy, and it will teach him exactly what you enjoy!
The masturbation techniques you have just read are some of my more basic ones. If you want to learn how to fully please and satisfy you partner in bed, along with how keep him madly in love with you, then you should use some of the techniques from this famous instructional video.
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