Flying first-class is an experience I recommend to everyone. The service, food and level of comfort are amazing. It feels like you have a personal butler who dotes on you and caters to your every whim. But what does flying first class have to do with love and attracting high-caliber men? More than you'd think.
A famous female recording artist said, "I'm lucky because I do get to fly first class now," while a famous Hollywood actress said, "When this is all over, flying internationally is going to be very hard for me. It is just not worth it to buy a first-class ticket, because of the cost." Their names are not important; their mindset is.
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What really disturbs me about the Hollywood actress' quote is that she has no idea how deeply it is linked to her (lack of) self-worth, and what she feels she deserves.
So why do we ladies say things like that? Why do we deny ourselves first-class treatment? Why do we settle for less, on flights and in our relationships? Perhaps someone once told you that you couldn't or shouldn't have something. Perhaps your parents taught you first-class tickets were a waste. Perhaps you have been treated poorly by your past partners for so long, you think things will always be that way.
You may think the root of this is about money, but it's really linked to something much deeper. It's about someone else's limitations on what they think they cannot have — or do not deserve. It really is about how much you feel you are worth. It is about how much you feel you deserve.
If you are currently settling in one area of your life, you settle in other areas too. You've probably heard the saying, "How you do anything is how you do everything."
I unapologetically invest in, expect and am open to receiving the best from life — whether it's traveling, eating, coaching, education, men, clothing or relationships. (And no, I was not born into a rich family. My parents immigrated to the United States, made their own way, and I did too).
There's no reason you can't strive for the same for yourself; you deserve the best from life, too. Part of a great life is a great partner to share it with. Here are five tips to help you expect and receive the best in your love life and relationships today.
5 Uncommon Traits That High-Caliber, Quality Men Find Irresistible:
1. High-caliber, quality men can't resist a woman who treats herself the way she wants him to treat her. I am amazed to hear women go down a list of how they want to be treated, places they want to be wined and dined, trips they want to go on and pampering they want to receive. Yet they skimp and don't invest in doing these things for themselves. Boggles the mind! This is something you must do all the time, whether you are in a relationship or not. Make a vow to never be cheap with yourself ever again. Ignore prices on menus. Stop waiting for sales. Invest in yourself at the highest level possible, whatever that looks like for you. Don't be irresponsible with your finances, but stop denying yourself pleasures that will make you feel special and successful. You are both.
2. High-caliber, quality men flock to a woman who is well-rounded. A woman once told me she could never attract a high-caliber boyfriend as she desired. After a short conversation, it came to light that she never invested in growing herself as a woman. A man of quality and intrigue can sense the inconsistent energy of a woman who is faking it. He will never trade his loaf of bread for her crumbs; he wants a partner who is on his level, and you must invest in yourself as he has done himself. As I say, "Your love life can only grow to the extent that you grow as a woman."
This is why I am consistently in multiple programs, seek coaches and mentors, and surround myself with people of excellence. Even my clients, who seek help and guidance, are successful, bright women. Being well-rounded also includes being a global citizen who invests in learning about different cultures and countries. Nothing expands your mind faster than traveling the world to discover the best other cultures have to offer.
3. High-caliber, quality men are drawn to a woman who is in a constant state of expansion. Stop saying things are too expensive. Instead, say, "I am worth it. So, how can I afford this? How can I obtain this?" I know people who wanted something that wasn't currently in their spending plan. They asked themselves those two questions and drew their desires to them. Never let money stop you from doing something you desire. You don't have a lack of finances; you have a lack of ideas. Tap into your desires and upgrade to the next level. Ask yourself, "How much will this cost me if I do not invest in it?"
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Again, this is not about finances or money. The point is that you must treat yourself as someone worthy of your desires, dreams and hopes. Only then will you attract a man who wants to nurture them. Keep Reading...
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