What Men REALLY Think About Lingerie!

We all know that a man appreciates when you get all gussied up for him and whet his appetite in something short and lacy, but when we shop for something that looks good for his eyes, we sometimes don't think about how WE feel wearing it.

We don't don't think about how it affects us emotionally when we wear that item.  We don't ask ourselves, "Do I feel confident, sensual, and alluring in this teddy or garter belt?" "Am I going to step out of the bathroom and KNOW inside that I feel ready to make passionate love in this ensemble?"  We only worry about how the man will think we look in it, regardless of the fact that the stiff lace on the crotch rubs our chubby-rub raw and the bones of the corset draw blood.

And the very last thing we feel is "ready to go" in the sack!  

Then, what usually ends up happening as soon as we step out the bathroom door?  He gives us a once over and then rips the lingerie off in less time then it took to get it on!!!

We are so worried about the outfit, so in our heads about how he sees us, that we shut off from our senses and then can't enjoy the sex and end up faking orgasm in our numb bodies.  We don't think about putting on lingerie as a ritual that revves up our Horny Gears. Instead, we think about it as a way to put our true sexuality aside and start servicing HIM!

And what, you ask, is the problem with that, since I'm a relationship coach who is all about the concept of selfless "love-based giving" when in a relationship with a man?

The fact that sex is an interesting type of gift to a man--the more you are SELFISH about it, the more he enjoys getting it!

He doesn't want you to put on some fancy lingerie while you dread the whole process and then lie there looking at the ceiling as he makes love to you minutes later.  He wants you to put on something that makes you feel like a goddess.  He wants you to put on something that makes you feel turned on and ready to go.  He wants you to put on something that makes you feel fabulous, regardless of how much attention he gives you for wearing it.

He doesn't want you to spend too long in the bathroom while he's naked in bed and waiting, only for you to walk out wearing a half smile, trip over the carpet in too-high heels and awkwardly grab the scratchy undies out your bum as you approach the bedside.

He also doesn't want to see you looking robotically stiff and self-consciously terrified in the outfit. That kills the mood completely for him.

Men like lingerie because it makes them feel that you take the time to be beautiful for them, and that you enjoy the process because you enjoy making yourself beautiful for men.

Men like lingerie because they like the idea that you are sooo turned on by them, you have to get all dressed up to make sex a special occasion where you can show them how very turned on they make you inside.