When sparks fly, here's what to look for.
The excitement and anticipation of a first date can be nerve-wracking. It's hard to know what to look for on a first date. However, the foundation of any great relationship has only two key ingredients.
Do you want to know what they are? I'll tell you, but first, consider this.
When you meet someone anywhere in any walk of life, you're already on a first date. When done right, the first date is more of a continuation than a beginning.
With that in mind, when you meet someone by chance, take your time. If you take your time, you will begin to notice if you have chemistry and, more importantly, you will see if you have the first key ingredient.
These are the two BIG things to watch out for when you're on a first date:
1. A relationship is a conversation that doesn't end.
People who have natural chemistry can talk for hours. Notice these 3 things:
- You have each other's full attention.
- Your body movements begin to sync up.
- It feels good, which naturally leads to a first date and also to the second of the only two key ingredients of what to look for on a first date.
2. A relationship is a series of kept agreements.
The reason the first date is important is the agreements it takes leading up to it. Does he call when he says he's going to call? Does he have a plan? Does he show up on time? These are the things to look for on a first date.
The reason my wife and I are still together after 5 years is quite simple. We make and keep our agreements. It started before the first date from the moment we met. After that, it becomes simple because the best thing to look for on a first date is a conversation that doesn't end.
James Allen Hanrahan is a dating relationship coach in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula.
This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.