The Only 2 Things To Look For On A First Date


The Only 2 Things To Look For On A First Date
When sparks fly here's what to look for. The 1-2 of a great first date.

The excitement and anticipation of a first date can be nerve racking. It's hard to know what to look for on a first date however the foundation of any great relationship has only two key ingredients. Do you want to know what they are? Me too... Actually I know what they are and I'm about to tell you but first consider this.

When you meet someone anywhere in any walk of life you are already on a first date. Actually when done right the first date is more of a continuation then a beginning. With that in mind when you meet someone by chance take your time. If you take your time you will begin to notice if you have chemistry and even more importantly you will see if you have the first key ingredient. Read A life Of Love.


The first key ingredient is. A relationship is a conversation that doesn't end... People who have natural chemistry can talk for hours. You will notice 3 things. One you have each others full attention. Two your body movements will begin to sync up. Three it feels good, which naturally leads to a first date and also to the second of the only two key ingredients of what to look for on a first date.

The second key ingredient is. A relationship is a series of kept agreements... Watch Chemistry To Commitment. The reason the first date is important is the agreements it takes leading up to it. Does he call when he says he's going to call? Does he have a plan? Does he show up on time? These are the things to look for on a first date. Men make 7 agreements when they commit. Watch Chemistry To Commitment.

The reason my wife and I are still together after 5 years is quite simple. We make and keep our agreements... It started before the first date from the moment we met. After that it's simple because the best thing to look for on a first date is a conversation that doesn't end. Read A Life Of Love.

Much love,


P.S. Learn the best places to meet quality guys. Sign up and watch the first video from

This article was originally published at Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

James Allen Hanrahan


I work with professional Alpha women and the men who love them. Smart, successful people with an on going war between their head and their heart which makes it difficult to have lasting, loving relationships. Welcome.

Checkout videos, products, articles and personal coaching...

Thank you James!
I just went out with a guy who is just the way you described it (feminine energy man), and was such a turn off! He started as a ten and as you mentioned, he did not give me any material, nor protected me (he actually crashed his bike against mine and I fell off the ground), and he cares about his feelings, not mine. So even though he seems like an amazing guy (in so many other areas), all these things put together were such a turnoff! And he keeps himself poor! Jees...Thank you for putting it in such a clean cut way!

 Do you give too much?  Do you have trouble receiving? When you understand what to say and how to say it to a man you will attract and keep the man you want to be with for the rest of your life. Having been alone for many years I know how painful and frustrating it can be not to know why or what to do or say. 

However as a result of what I want to share with you I'm now happily married. It's been a long journey and I want the same for you because in the end love is all that matters. It's possible and you deserve to be loved for who you are inside. Contact me and find your way back to love from the "Inside out Outside in"..

Much love,




Location: Santa Monica, CA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support
Other Articles/News by James Allen Hanrahan:

2 Magic Words Make Men Commit


If you've ever had a man tell you he's not ready to commit it is very frustrating. Investing your time and feelings in a guy and then hearing about his cold feet can have you swearing off men altogether. Before you do use these two words. First I want to say that you may be tempted to argue with him and explain that the reasons he's not ready ... Read more

Why You Haven't Met Mr. Right


If one more coach tells me how she met her Mr. Right and became a first time bride at 40+ and is now living happily ever after I'm going to throw up. The funny thing is I rarely see any of these mythical unicorn men. With that in mind I want to introduce you to real men. If a man never fights with you, if you never have an argument, you are not with a ... Read more

The Most Important First Date


Traditionally when you first start dating you go out to dinner. This often leads to a somewhat of an interview process especially if you're coming from online dating. While your checking or unchecking your boxes you may notice that you still don't know the person and you're right because you haven't had the most important first date. A ... Read more

See More

Latest Expert Videos
Must-see Videos
Most Popular