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Stroking His Ego: Why It Is Non-Negotiable


Why men need you to make them feel like they are #1.

It can be so easy to become complacent in your relationship. I often hear couples complain about not feeling appreciated or valued by their partner. Things become routine and chore-like and eventually something that used to feel so fun and intoxicating has now become stale and routine-like. Resentment and regret begins to take over and you find yourself arguing the stupidest little things. The love is still there but things have started to break down and eyes have begun to wander. Not because you think your partner is the worst person in the world but because you are seeking the attention and appreciation that he is not giving you.

You have to be careful not to fall into this trap that you are setting yourself up for. Everyone has a slutty friend that is always spouting quotes about seducing and keeping a man. The most common saying that I have heard is “If you won’t do it, someone else will” and so many times I have heard people dismiss this advice without a second thought. What does a slut, who can’t keep a man, know about keeping one satisfied?

I hate to burst your bubble but that slut can probably teach you a few things to keep your man satisfied. Call me crazy if you want to but think about it. Your slutty friend doesn’t keep men because he/she doesn’t want to. They are too busy taking someone else’s and they are able to do it because they know what men want.

Here are 2 ways that you can stroke his ego and keep your relationship on the right track.

Showing Appreciation

All men have egos and some of us have really BIG ones, whether we want to admit it or not. Those egos need to be stroked and when you are in a relationship, you have to make sure that he feels like he is number one in your book. Whether it’s his intelligence, physical appearance, sexual performance or the way he treats you, you should always make time to ensure he knows how you feel.

Now I am not saying that you should be complimenting him 24/7/365 about every single thing that he does. I’m also not suggesting that you lie to him and tell him he is good at something when he’s really not.  Contrary to what people think, men are very perceptive and they will know when you are lying. They may not feel the need to say anything but deep down we know it. Any and all compliments that you give him should be true and really come from the heart. This shouldn’t be that hard if you really love him because all you are doing is complimenting him on the things that keep you attracted to him. 

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