You know that euphoria that fills you up when you first start dating someone? That fun and excitement of entering a new relationship that makes us want to shout it from the rooftops for all to hear? That feels really good. But sometimes, sharing the news widely isn't a good idea. Sometimes, we should keep the rooftop-shouting only within range of our closest friends -- at least for a little while -- before we broadcast it online.
Carlee, of New Jersey, kept her relationships status quiet when she got back together with her ex-boyfriend.
“When I broke up with him, I hid my relationship status so I didn't have to deal with people asking me what happened. I kept it hidden even after we got back together a couple months later, until I was sure things were okay between us and so people wouldn’t interfere in our relationship,” Carlee said. “Now that we’ve been back together for a while, it's unhidden again.”
April, of New Jersey, understands Carlee's quietness, which is why her Facebook status always indicates she is in a relationship even though she is currently single.
“I also want to avoid people asking questions like ‘what happened’ or just knowing information I may still be sensitive to,” April says, adding that she also keeps that status for safety purposes. “I don't want unnecessary people sending me inappropriate messages or text messages.”
Relationship expert and dating consultant Stacie Ikka says displaying your true relationship status on Facebook isn't necessarily a bad idea, but there are instances when it's smart to hold off on announcing who you are dating or if you are involved with someone at all to your online circles.
Here's when she says it's best to keep your relationship status quiet.
1. IF YOU GET A LOT OF UNWANTED POKES, WINKS AND INVITATIONS
Some people see a "single" status on Facebook as an invitation to be in contact, overtly flirt or even harass someone. If you are getting invitations that make you uncomfortable, consider leaving your relationship status blank.
"If you are single and not necessarily looking to use Facebook as a dating site and simply selected that status because you thought that all fields in your profile needed to be filled out–BEWARE!," Ikka says. Sometimes other singles, and even people who are in relationships already, prey on women who announce that they are on the market.
2. IF YOU DON'T WANT OTHER PEOPLE TO INTERFERE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR ROMANTIC BUSINESS
"For a relationship to develop between two people in a way that leads to a healthy future, it is often best that the details and status of that relationship be contained among the two people involved—and the select few they choose to confide in,” Ikka advises.
This also goes for those who are entering a new relationship.