Why He Keeps You Waiting By The Phone & How To Handle It

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Why He Keeps You Waiting By The Phone & How To Handle It [EXPERT]
Before you get impatient and call him, consider this advice.

Has this ever happened to you? You meet a new guy for coffee and have a great first date. He was easy to talk to, had a good sense of humor and had good answers to your questions. You feel tentatively positive. The week goes by. He texts once or twice, but does not ask about the weekend.

Then, he finally calls you, on Friday, to talk about the weekend. "Are you free tonight?" he asks. Well, you purposely left the weekend open hoping he would call. So you say, "Yes". You go out and have another great date. It is so nice to talk to a man who you can have a great conversation. You smile, laugh and share similar ideas about life. Single? Why You're Crazy Not To Try Online Dating

 

Then, you don't hear from him all week, except for some texting. This time, you can't take it. You want to know what is going to happen for the weekend. You can't stand this waiting game. You assume, of course, you will have a date.

So, you decide to be bold and just call him. What's the big deal, right? This is 2012. When he answers, he seems happy to hear from you. When you ask about the weekend, he says he hasn't given it much thought. You tell him you are trying to make plans, so you need to know when he wants to get together. The good news is he suggests going out on Saturday night.

You have another great date. This relationship is going great and you have some momentum. The next week ticks by with a few fun texts, but not much more. Thursday arrives and you start wondering, "What the heck? Is he not going to plan ahead, again? Should I call him? Why is he acting like this, especially when we have such a good time together?" How To Turn Off A Man On Your First Date

So, why doesn't he call sooner? Good question. As a dating coach for 10 years, I have some answers about why he doesn't call that might help clear things up. This dating advice offers possible reasons and not all of them will likely apply. But, you will get the idea.

1. He's just not that into you ... as Greg Behrendt says in his book by the same name. This simple answer cuts deep, but has a great deal of validity. While you and your date may have a great time, it doesn't mean the same thing to him as it does to you.

2. He's not in relationship mode. While he certainly enjoys your company, he is more relaxed about seeing you.

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This article was originally published at It's Never Too Late for Love . Reprinted with permission.
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