The new year is the perfect time to get out there and meet someone new.
Do you ever sit around wondering why you haven't been on a date in ages? You think, How come my dating life isn't going anywhere? I am willing to bet that if you got off your cute little butt and put some effort into meeting other singles, you would find some dates. And, seeing as it's the new year, consider making a commitment to go out and meet more singles as one of your New Year's resolutions.
For starters, get out your calendar and schedule at least three activities or events per month. To insure the greatest chance of getting actual dates, choose at least two events that are specifically geared towards singles. Many people make the mistake of attending a group only once, but you'll want to frequent the same group over and over again so people begin to recognize you. Finally, go alone so you will have to get out of your shell and meet more people.
Here are some places to meet other single people:
1. Go to a bar or pub. One of the easiest places to meet people is at a neighborhood bar or pub. Do not have more than one drink. In fact, it would be better to sip a club soda so you are totally present. Witness your fears and inhibitions as they arise.
Do you go for the person you are most attracted to or do shy away? Do you wait to be noticed by others or do you send out signals that you are interested? Are you judging people and looking for their flaws? What if you looked around the room and focused on what is attractive about each person instead? Keep reading ...
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This article was originally published at Lisa Shield Dating and Relationship Coach . Reprinted with permission from the author.