You need to demand the kind of love that you want.
It’s difficult to reject the love we have in hopes of getting something better for there’s no guarantee that we won’t be left without any kind of affection or caring. No one wants no love or the wrong kind of love.
If you’re with someone who says they love you but their actions say otherwise, it can feel worse than not being loved at all.
We all have the right to demand that we get the kind of love we deserve and want. We shouldn’t be made to feel as if we should accept anything and like it. When we accept less, then we’re denying ourselves and eroding our sense of self-worth. Loneliness is better than the frustration of not getting what you require to live your best life and to feel good about yourself.
If you’re not honest with your partner about your needs and desires, they might not know what they should be doing. You can’t expect them to just know, even if you know yourself. They may be doing something right but not doing it enough, or maybe not with the right amount of energy or intent behind it.
When you’re loved in the way right, you’ll know — you’ll feel as if you’re truly appreciated and cared for. And when someone loves you, loving you in the correct way isn’t a punishment or a duty, it’s something that they should do willingly.
You need to be loved for your independence and competitive spirit. You don't want a love that will tie you down or confine you, you need a love that allows you to do what you want when you want it. You want a supportive and encouraging kind of love, one that will allow you to do your own thing.
You tend to be someone who takes care of other people so when it comes to being loved, you'd like to be the one who is made to feel special and taken care of. You want to be enveloped in the warmth of your partner's heart and you want to be at the top of their list of priorities.
You have a fantastic public persona but it can be exhausting to always be "on." You need someone who can love you when you're the life of the party and love you during your more quiet and contemplative moments. You are more than just one way and you need to be loved for the many aspects of your personality.
You're extremely compassionate and empathetic and you need someone who not only listens to you with an open heart but who completely understands you. You are the sum of your emotions and you need someone who accepts you and doesn't try to get you to be tougher. You don't just want a shoulder to cry on, you want someone who can anticipate what you need to feel better and stronger.
You're used to be admired but when it comes to a partner, you need to be heard. You detest being ignored or condescended to, so you need someone who respects and admires you as much as they love you. You need a partner who isn't just a follower but someone who is strong enough to stand by your side without competing with you for the spotlight.
You need to have an honest love from someone who enjoys your company and admires you without hidden motivations. You want to be appreciated, not used for what you can do for someone. You need unconditional love because you tend to be highly critical of yourself and you need someone to reassure you that you're incredible and perfect just the way you are.
You need an easy-going love. You don't like to be criticized and you don't enjoy conflict for sport. You want to feel enveloped in love without being smothered. If your partner can motivate you in a gentle way to become a better person and to accomplish your goals, that's an added bonus.
You need a love that can match your high levels of intensity and passion. Your partner may not always agree with you but they need to be able to stand up for what they believe in and not back down to you. You're strong and you want a love that's strong enough to weather any kind of emotional storm or challenge that may be presented.
You need a love that can accommodate your need for spontaneity and change. It's not easy for you to put down roots or make a commitment, so you need a love that will allow you to spread your wings and soar, not one that will try to stifle you. Basically, the perfect love is flexible and as ever-changing as you are.
Since you tend to be reserved and a bit pessimistic, you need a love that will help you to see the bright side of life. Your partner should encourage you to express all the different sides of your personality, even the goofy side and who will cheer you on when you step out of your comfort zone and when you deviate from your routine.
Sharing feelings isn't exactly something you do, so you need a love that will encourage you to get in touch with your emotions and will open you up to the emotions of others. Not many things scare you more than losing control of your emotions, which is why you need a love that will help you stand up to that fear and to feel all the messy feelings of being human.
You are so busy helping others that sometimes you don't have enough time for yourself or your love life. You need a soulmate who will focus on you and make you feel completely cared for and nurtured — they'll make you see how vital human companionship and love are to your life.