How you show you want to take it to the next level.
Are you interested in being in a relationship? Not everyone is; some people are perfectly happy living the solo life. Being single can be wonderful and rewarding, just like being part of a couple can be. It’s up to you to decide what it is that you ultimately want relationship-wise.
Sometimes we can be interested in having a relationship, but the vibe we give off is a "stay away" one. We may not realize that our body language is telling an entirely different story than what we say it is that we want.
There are instances when we think we’re being direct and clear with our intended partners that we want to take our relationship to the next level. We want to be in a long-term relationship, move in together or even marry, but for some reason, they just don’t get it and we have to trigger them to see us as potential girlfriends or significant others.
No one wants to get stuck in a no-strings relationship when strings and commitment are exactly the things they want. But how do you show that you are relationship material when you know just stating it out loud isn’t enough?
There are things that you can do to get that message across, and many of them are probably things you do anyway — thoughtful and caring things that we naturally do when we love somebody. You don’t just say "I love you" on Valentine’s Day, so you’re not just going to be nice to someone when you want them to be able to picture a life with you.
The last thing that you want to do is paint a dishonest picture of yourself or try to fool someone into committing to you.
When you consider someone else’s feelings and do things simply because you know they’d appreciate them, then you’re able to show that you are the partner they’re looking for; you are someone who would make their life better just by being in it.
Are you relationship material? Here's how each zodiac sign shows they are.
You keep physically connected with him. If you're walking the dog or walking in a walkathon, you hold his hand. If you're standing in a group, you may have one arm around him, and even when you're watching a scary movie, you'll squeeze his arm during the scary parts.
You share your space with him. If you're bingeing on Netflix, you let him lay his head in your lap and nap. You've made room for things like his toothbrush and razor, letting him see that there's a place for him in your life. You make sure that you have some of the beer that he likes in your fridge at all times.
You always remember to introduce him to the people you know that he doesn't such as your boss, your friends, and your spinning instructor. You don't ignore him when you're deep in conversation with someone; you draw him in and make sure that he's included.
You let him know that you appreciate the way he makes you feel safe and cared for. You're there for him when he needs to rant or jump for joy or cry. He knows that he can express whatever his emotions may be because you won't judge him, and you'll do what he needs to feel better and provide a safe space.
You buy him things you like to see him in such as those jeans that make him look hot or those cute boxer briefs that make you want to jump his bones. You tell him why he looks so good in those things. You compliment him enough to make him feel good but not so much that it comes off as fake and dishonest.
You secretly make notes about the problems that need solving or the items that are broken, and then you figure out the answers and fix the broken items. You do things without being asked because you want to make his life a little easier and because he does the same things for you.
You not only value his opinions, but you let him know that his opinions matter more than anyone else's. You support and defend him and even though you hate conflict, you'd stand up for him if you needed to.
You don't play unnecessary games. You text him first or you send him a message wishing him luck on his big presentation at work. You don't wait until he contacts you to contact him, but you don't do it to excess. You're proactive; you make dinner reservations, you initiate sex and you book the weekend getaway.
You make him laugh when he's feeling stressed and you rub his back. He knows that you'll make him feel better and that he doesn't have to do anything to earn affection; you give it to him freely because you care. You smile with your eyes when you see him and that makes him feel incredible.
When you fight, you don't get so angry that you make ultimatums. You can disagree and it won't be the end of everything; in fact, it's because you respect him and hold him in such high esteem that you both feel able to have opposing opinions. You tell him what he means to you.
You don't have to constantly be chatting or having deep conversations; you can be silent together and it feels comfortable and right. It lets you both unwind and release your tension without having to justify or analyze the reasons for having it in the first place. Being able to have a comfortable silence is actually very meaningful.
You listen to him and you communicate with him in such a way that you make him feel wanted — not just for sex but in many different ways. You want him as a partner, a friend, a companion, an inspiration, a lover, and as someone to share your life with. Your attention isn't divided between him and your phone when you're having a meal together — your focus is on him.