Why You're TERRIBLE At Love, According To Your Zodiac Sign

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Admit it, you suck at love!

Are you an expert at love or should you get a lot better at it? As much as we may long for it, crave it, and devote our lives to finding it, no one is perfect at love. In fact, much of the time, we are bad at love.

Think of what it’s like when you’re at the beginning of a love relationship — how many missteps and mistakes do you make? You try so hard to be cool, open and sophisticated, acting as if you know what you’re doing every step of the way, but you still will do something inappropriate, embarrassing, and awkward. If you're lucky, all the stupid things you do will be seen as charming and will endear you to the person you’re falling in love with.


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Then, when you’re starting to get to know someone and you open up emotionally, there continues to be the danger of you screwing things up in a big way. But you continue — you have to know that your heart is involved.

Are you any better at love when you’re at the end of it? Not necessary; we continue to grow and make mistakes, but hopefully, the love has grown stronger and can hold up to our failures and errors.

 

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The truth is we are all bad at love almost all the time, but that’s ultimately how we keep things fresh and interesting in our relationships. If we were perfect at love, we’d be boring and predictable. If we didn’t make mistakes, we wouldn’t grow and we'd just be stagnant and unchanging.


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We change the way we express and deal with our emotions as we age. You don’t feel love the same way at 40 that you did at 16. Love changes and we change and no matter how proficient you get at it, you’re still going to mess up.

This is why you’re terrible at love, according to your zodiac sign.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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When you meet someone you think might be the one, you're enthusiastically all in, but once the relationship threatens to take time away from your activities, you start to feel weighed down. When you start to feel comfortable with your partner, you have no filter and don't hold back when you get angry.

You get over your outbursts pretty quickly but that doesn't mean your partner does. It's challenging enough to keep up with your moods, let alone keeping up with your constant stream of adventures and activities.

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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You're not the most communicative person on the planet and it can get old fast when you refuse to open up to your partner. Then there's the fact that you're incredibly stubborn. Compromise isn't your thing. When you dig your heels in, your partner may feel like they're senselessly banging their head against a wall. Relationships involve two people.

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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You will have the potential for a fantastic relationship in the palm of your hand but you'll be unable to commit to what it is that you're looking for. It's pretty insulting to your potential love interest to be made to feel as if they aren't good enough or that you're always looking past them for someone better. You aren't settling when you make a commitment to someone whom you care about deeply.

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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You spend so much time going over your previous relationships and how you felt about it that anyone who wants to get close to you will feel put off. It's great that you're sensitive and empathetic, but the constant feelings are exhausting, both for you and a potential partner. You tend to come off self-involved and self-centered. 

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One

LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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People are attracted to you all the time because of your dazzling personality and good looks, but what can put them off is how you seem to need constant praise and compliments to live. Someone can appreciate you without stroking your ego 24/7. You're awesome, you know it, now focus on someone else.

 

Read: 6 Brutal Truths About Loving A Leo, As Written By One

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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You can barely stand it when you turn your critical eye on yourself, so imagine how it feels when you get hypercritical with someone else. When you give into your perfectionist nature, you play a losing game. No one is perfect — not your potential boo and not you. Learn to appreciate imperfections and stop searching for flaws. Your standards are unbelievably high. 

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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You tend to take so long to take action that when you do, you panic and everything gets messed up. Not every decision is life or death and just because you go out with someone doesn't mean you should marry them. Be spontaneous and open to what may happen; don't try to plan everything out.

 

Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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You get too involved and too fast. One minute you're having your first date, the next you're testing them to see if they would be a good match for you. Once you decide you love them, then the obsession begins.

It's either scalding hot with you or icy cold. Try letting a relationship and feelings develop without going overboard. Your intensity is scary.

 

Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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You have this idea that committing yourself to one person means settling down and giving up all your freedom. You get to a certain point with a relationship and then you just take off, sometimes without warning. Getting you to commit is like trying to catch the wind with a straw: practically impossible.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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When it comes to love, you're too rigid. You've had a plan with how your future will go down — love, marriage, house, and kids, and then you try to fit somebody into it without taking into consideration about what they want. You need to learn how to be more flexible and spontaneous. Sometimes it's fun to create a life plan as you go along.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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There's a reason why we have feelings — not only do they help to make our lives interesting, they affect everything we do. But you're not the biggest fan of emotions and it can take you a long time to realize that you have them, let alone act on them. Here's the thing: being completely unemotional is kind of a love buzz kill.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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You have your romantic fantasies, but when reality isn't like the romantic comedies you watch, you get disappointed. You may not meet someone who is cute, he may not (probably won't) read you poetry or write you a song, and there may be a glitch or ten in your relationship, but true love is possible

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One

 

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