We all want to be respected.
There’s an old Aretha Franklin song where she sings, “R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Find out what it means to me," and while the song may be from the 1960s, respect remains something that we all seek. And if we’re not giving it, we will do whatever we need to do to have it.
We want to feel respected by all those we meet in our lives, and the social contract is that respect is what we show to those who are older and more learned than we are — meaning respecting our teachers, religious leaders, and our elders. It also never hurts to show respect to whoever we meet (it’s always a good idea to show respect to strangers).
Courtesy often goes along with respect. Respect and courtesy are not old-fashioned just because they’ve been around for hundreds of years. Treating people with respect, politeness, and interest is always in fashion.
When we feel disrespected, we get angry and hurt. We can overreact to what we perceive is a lack of consideration and appreciation. Respect should never be withheld due to our social standing or anything superficial about ourselves.
While it’s important to be respected by acquaintances or even strangers, we most want respect from our loved ones. We’ll battle with our family members to stop treating us like a child and/or discounting our thoughts and ideas because of our ranking in the family.
We want our man to show that they respect us, our wishes, and our ideals, and to not just brush them off as if they were meaningless. If you’re in a relationship, you want respect along with affection, validation, support, and love.
Many times, the showing of respect is very clear, but other times it can be murky. We all have different ways we show respect and different ways we perceive it.
If you're working out together or doing something competitive, Aries doesn't hold back and let you win. He respects your abilities enough to play his best so that when you win, you know that you won honestly and because you were an amazing opponent.
He respects you enough to tell you the truth, even if it's about himself. When a Taurus respects you, thy show it by being their true selves and being honest. You know he respects you because sometimes he knows that you're not going to like what he tells you, but he tells you anyway.
You know that a Gemini respects you when they don't talk down to you. Your guy knows that you can give as good as you get when it comes to arguing or discussing something. He knows that your mind is whip sharp and if he says something witty, you'll probably not only be able to understand it but you'll top it.
When your guy is stressed out by work or other personal problems, he doesn't take it out on you. Cancer respects you enough to recognize that you're his support system, not his punching bag. He trusts you to help him through difficult and painful situations. He respects how compassionate and empathetic you are and how you can understand what he's going through without taking on all his negative emotions.
You know Leo respects you because he challenges you to do better without making you feel as if you're failing. He's supportive, challenging, and with you every step of the way because he believes in you.
Your Virgo man shows he respects you by the way he's intensely interested in what you say. You know he isn't just nodding his head and pretending to get what you're saying; you know this by the way he adds to the conversation and how his body language backs him up.
How do you know if a Libra respects you? One way is to look at how he treats you when you're one-on-one and how you are in a group. If he's just as nice and sweet in both situations, he respects you. It's not respectful if he ignores you at a party but then when you get home is suddenly into you, or maybe he's very demonstrative at an event with others, but when it's just the two of you, he ignores you. Respect doesn't need witnesses for it to happen.
A respectful Scorpio doesn't make inappropriate, suggestive comments on other girls' social media. He doesn't send dick pics to other women, nor does he accept naked photos from them. He doesn't flirt with other people because he knows it's disrespectful to you.
Sagittarius shows you he respects you when he not only supports your goals but encourages you to go after your dreams. He knows you have what it takes to achieve your ambitions and when you go on dates, he's fully there, not just staring at his phone or looking around. He respects you enough to give you his full attention.
You've earned Capricorn's respect with your confidence and the proud way you live your life. You're strong and capable and he shows his respect by treating you like an equal. The plans you make together is another way that he shows that he holds you in high esteem.
When you get into an argument, Aquarius shows his respect by not resorting to name-calling, and he certainly never gets physical in any way when he's angry with you. He respects that you are independent and a unique person, and he would never try to change you or encourage you to hold back. The more you soar as an individual, the more he respects you.
Pisces admires how kind and affectionate you are and shows his respect for you in a creative way. Perhaps he uses you as a subject for a painting or photography portrait, or maybe you inspired a song or poem he wrote. He may not show his respect in conventional ways but his admiration is clear.