How To Give The PERFECT Blow Job (According to 30 Sex Experts)

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THIS is how we do it.

On the surface, nothing seems easier than giving a blow job. What's so hard about putting a penis in your mouth, right? 

Wrong. There is a good blow job, and a bad blow job and guys remember both kinds — albeit it for VERY different reasons. 

Sex experts all over the globe have compiled tips and guides to giving the best possible oral sex he's had. That's where we come in. 

To save you from hours of trolling the web looking for the best blow job tips, we've pulled together 30 of the best pieces of expert of advice to guide you on your journey from blow job novice to blow job black belt. 

Happy trails!  

 

1. Gag-proof yourself 

"Here's a trick that gives him the illusion that you're taking him all the way in: Place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth. Then let his member hit the underside of your tongue."

- Bethanny Heitman 

 

2. Stop thinking of it as a job

"Stop thinking of it as a job. Done correctly, oral sex can be satisfying for both of you—so long as you follow this sage advice."

- Anna Davies

 

3. Use your hands

While your mouth is definitely your star player, calling in your hands as reinforcements will boost stimulation for your guy and increase your stamina since you're splitting up the work."

- Kelly Thore

4. Don't neglect his balls

"Oral sex without the twins would be like a sundae without the hot fudge — it's just wrong. The skin covering his balls is rife with sensitive nerve endings, so if you're ignoring this key area in your downtown adventures, you're robbing your man of some serious bliss. Every now and then, take a detour and try gently licking or sucking that skin, all while manually handling his shaft. And when you're mid-oral and have a free hand, gently cup them as you go."

- Meghan Jones

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5. Foreplay it up

"I am constantly surprised to hear students tell me that men don't enjoy foreplay as much as women do. This is simply untrue. Men may never actually tell you that they like foreplay, but your guy will have much more powerful and enjoyable orgasms if you engage in foreplay with him before actually giving him a blowjob."

- Sean Jameson 

 

6. Prolong his pleasure 

"Oral pleasure is so incredible, most guys want it to last for as long as possible. Not every blow job needs to be a marathon, but every once in awhile take the opportunity to really slow down and stretch out the experience." 

- Pleasure Mechanics 

 

7. Get it wet

"Sensation feels way better when you make him wet. Try to generate lots of saliva and use your hands to spread it all over the head and shaft. If you need help generating enough moisture, suck on a mint to get your saliva glands going."

- Pleasure Mechanics

 

8. Just the tip

"The top part of your man's penis is the most sensitive part by far, and more sensitive = more pleasure. Scientifically, this is known as the glans or head. It's the purple part that looks distinctively different to the rest of it. When you're first learning how to perform oral sex on a guy, you need to concentrate on this area more than any other. The great thing about focusing mostly on giving oral to the head of your man's penis is that you don't have to worry about taking it deep into your mouth or throat, so you don't have to worry too much about coughing, choking or gagging."

- Sean Jameson

 

9. Master the art of talking dirty 

"The trick is to boost his ego with believable compliments. If you’re man is average sized, tell him his it's "perfect." Tell him that you love it, and that you love feeling him grow and twitch in your mouth. Also make sure your compliments are directed to him specifically."

- Nick Hardwick 

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10. Ask what kind of blow job he likes best

Using a combination of communication and experimentation, find out what works best for him. The best blow job you've ever given someone else could be the exact opposite of what he wants. Blowjobs are personal! 

Nick Hardwick

11. Put a grapefruit on his penis 

"Your mouth can do things your vagina cannot do. Your vagina is amazing, she is so amazing that nine times out of ten, a man you’re having sex with will have an orgasm. That’s how great she is. God made her perfect. Your mouth is different: You have to work at it a bit. But once you have a great vagina—which is already taken care of—as well as great head, that’s when you become a beast. My advice for women is to become a beast."

- Auntie Angel

 

12. Give his penis a champagne bath 

"Simply open a bottle of bubbly and make sure your glass is full and nearby. Then take a mouthful of Champagne before encasing him in your mouth. It feels great on his end; the bubbles fizz, and it's all terribly celebratory. Plus, you're happy because you're essentially giving him a little wash. (And I bet this time you won't complain about swallowing!)"

- Tracey Cox 

 

13. Massage his taint 

"Don’t spend all your time and devotion on the head, make sure you’re loving on the entire kielbasa. Place one hand on the base of his dick and the other on his balls. You can give them a gentle tug, and massage the perineum."

- Adrien Field 

 

14. Don't strain yourself

"It's just like sucking a Popsicle. It shouldn't be any more ergonomically challenging. When you lean over too much, the jaw can be inconvenienced."

- Stacey Grenrock Woods

 

15. Assume the oral sex position he loves

"Men polled prefer a position where they could be on their hands and knees."

- Dr. Jack Summers

 

16. The frenulum needs love too

"Don't forget to stimulate the frenulum, the little flap on the underside of the head. It’s similar to the little flappy thing under your tongue, only smaller."

- Alisa Bowman

 

17. Showers rock 

"Suggest (either directly or indirectly) to your partner that he freshens up a bit. A sensual shower together serves both as foreplay and as a way of making sure he's clean."

- Carol Limon

 

 

18. Teeth aren't always the enemy

This isn’t to say that teeth are never skillfully applied. The advanced dick sucker can use them in light and playful teasing bites without causing any pain or distress. Practice makes perfect!

- Jane

 

19. Make blow jobs a bonding experience 

"A masterful blow job can destroy relationships but it can also cement them together."

- Mr. Romance

 

20. Learn about blow jobs from porn

"Watching porn is a good start. It might introduce you to a few moves you hadn’t thought of, but do remember when you’re watching porn, that porn sex isn’t real sex."

- The Guyliner

21. An uncircumcised man still loves a blow job

"You can pull back your partner’s foreskin to expose the glans (the bulbous tip of the penis that is sensitive to stimulation). That said, when aroused, the uncircumcised penis usually projects past the foreskin, resembling a circumcised penis. So it should be possible to stimulate and pleasure the uncircumcised penis in mostly similar ways to the circumcised penis." 

- Sexual Health

 

22. You CAN use a condom

"Once he’s ready, choose a condom that is tight and secure in the base but loose on the tip and shaft, for wiggle room. You have two options here: stick with the old-school or go for the flavours. Choosing a natural condom that gives you freedom of movement and provides complete safety is a safe bet to make. Some people prefer to get some flavors in the bedroom. Also an interesting idea, kind of modern."

- Condomania 

 

23. You don't need to swallow OR spit

"You can get your mouth out of the way and finish with your hands. You can use paper towels or a towel to contain the ejaculate, or just deal with the mess afterward if you’re not too put off by it."

- Courtney Hamilton

 

24. Start with medium suction

"Start with "a nice medium suction — maybe even a notch up from medium — and then increase from there every once in a while to see if that gets an extra moan or an 'Oh, yeah' or an 'Ouch!'"

- Jamie Beckman

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25. Focus on your breath 

"Keep breathing (through your nose) and remember that slow and steady is usually more pleasurable (for both of you!), than fast and furious. If you’re gag-prone, you don’t have to ‘deep throat’ him during oral sex. The tip of a man’s penis is very sensitive and there’s a way to kiss and caress him that will be very sensual. Tease it out. Use your hands while you give him oral. And try different positions so you can see what’s most comfortable. You’re bound to find a better position that won’t trigger gagging."

- Amanda Chatel 

 

26. Do the twist

"Twist your hand around. But don't just go up and down, up and down. Move your hand in all directions — kind of like an "Indian burn" without the burn."

- Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez

 

27. There's nothing hotter than eye contact 

"Make eye contact while you’re licking his tip, and look like you enjoy it. If you find it difficult to smile with his penis down your throat, look into his eyes lustfully. His penis is an ice cream cone, remember?"

- Emily Morse

 

28. Use your breath to turn him on

"Don't just race to get into him your mouth. Tease him a little with your hot breath. Upping the anticipation makes the actual event that much hotter once it's actually begun. "

- Patti Knows

 

29. Explore his meatus 

"This is the hole on the tip of his penis. It's such a specific area that he probably doesn't even know it CAN be stimulated. Press into it with your tongue and watch the magic unfold." 

- Lara Sever 

 

30. Try a blindfold

"Blindfold him to intensify the sensations, so he’s concentrating only on what you’re doing. Restrain his hands for added spice." 

- Katie Thorn 

 

 

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