SPOILER ALERT: Only read this article after reading "50 Shades Darker." And, of course, reading our original advice for Ana: 5 Love Tips For Anastasia Steele In 'Fifty Shades Of Grey'
Let me get this straight — after only FIVE days of being away from Christian, you've rekindled your romance already? Geez, that didn't take long! I'm thrilled you're back with your man, but it's obvious you're still tormented by your own issues with your sex life, his past and your future together. Let me let you in on some advice:
1. You are not alone. "I have spoken to no one, not even my mother or Ray … I have become my own island state. A ravaged, war-torn land where nothing grows and the horizons are bleak." Ana, I've told you once and I'll tell you again, don't isolate yourself in your grief or confusion! Every self-help book and therapist on the planet will tell you to talk to someone about your feelings. You're not the only emotionally tortured and sexually confused twenty-something out there. Plenty of people dabble and engage in an S&M lifestyle and alternative types of relationships. Google "BDSM" and see what comes up. Ask some questions on the message boards. Visit YourTango or pick up a copy of Cosmopolitan. Hell, use your billionaire boyfriend's money to buy some goodies at Agent Provocateur. You're not the only "bad girl" out there and you don't have to "suffer" alone. You need a support system! 12 Naughtiest Bits From '50 Shades Darker'
2. Timing is everything. After building trust and letting your love develop, Christian has finally let you touch him in the "forbidden zone." He even begs you for it now. You've made progress by being patient, so why not do this in other aspects of your relationship? After you make love with Christian, romp in the playroom, hold hands at a masquerade ball, spend time with his family, open your eyes in the morning while in his arms — why do you feel the need to constantly bring up the WORST aspects of your relationship and his past? The Anastasia Steele inquisition seems even tougher (and more poorly timed) than the Katherine Kavanaugh inquisition. Sometimes, questions can wait and silence is golden. Don't ruin the most tender moments of your relationship. Read more...
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