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Bringing Sexy Back: 5 Ways To Increase Female Libido In Marriage

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How to increase the female libido and sexual arousal for more intimacy in your marriage.

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Does living with your husband seem more and more like crashing with a roommate than with a spouse? Does it feel like years since you've had some soul-inspiring, body-exploding sexual intimacy in your marriage? When you've been together for a while, it's easy to lose the spark—especially for women. Increasing female libido in marriage can seem like a daunting task. But never fear—sexual arousal is right around the corner. These five tips will help you locate and increase that elusive female libido, so you and your man can succeed in bringing the sexy back into your marriage.

1. Say it. If your sex life is boring you, tell him. Be honest and remember to phrase it positively, but explain that things have become a little stale. By speaking about the unspoken, you'll begin the needed communication to get your tricky female libido back on track. Talking about all the things you really want to do in bed increases intimacy in your marriage, and it's is also a sexy form of foreplay, and we all know what foreplay leads to, right?

2. Switch it up. Most couples are comfortable with the classic positions when it comes to sex (think missionary, woman on top, doggy style), but bringing the sexy back requires moving beyond the same old positions. It's incredibly important to constantly update and upgrade your bedroom repertoire. Changing the ways, times and the places you have sex keeps it exciting. Keep your sex surprising and if at all possible, shocking!

When your mate jumps in the shower, join him or her. Plan a naked weekend together in your house or apartment by setting up a sexy campground in your living room. Explore the sexy world of lingerie by buying some new piece and showing your lover how hot you look and feel by putting on a passion-filled fashion show, complete with a striptease-filled big finish. Take the time to get creative with the scenario or better yet, the position.