For the Ladies: How to Give a Good Hand Job

For the Ladies: How to Give a Good Hand Job

For the Ladies: How to Give a Good Hand Job

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 Below is some advice (in bold) taken from the book The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex by Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., followed by me adding my own thoughts in.  (By the way, guys, if you really want your partner to know this stuff, you could show her this blog OR, sneakily, buy her the book and hope that she reads Chapter 8. But I recommend the direct approach.)


 


You will need a lubricant that is specifically designed by the manufacturer for use in sexual contact.  If not, you could cause discomfort or worse.


 



1.  Preferably, start with the lubricant before your partner is fully erect, if possible.  Put a dollop of the lubricant the size of a fifty cent piece in the palm of your hand and spread it luxuriously on his penis with your other hand.  Use finesse.  I recommend also being creative and having fun.  The more fun you’re having, the more fun he’ll be having.


 


2.  When you give your man a hand job, think about touching him in a way that will make YOUR HANDS feel good.  This will cause you to set aside all your anxiety regarding: am I doing it right? etc.  I know this may sound odd, but try it. I did it for my partner and got good reviews.


 


3.  Try running one or two fingers up and down the length of his penis.  Using the middle three fingers on both hands, gently press at the base of the penis, moving your hands around the circle like the face of a clock.  This is a bit mind-boggling at first, but hang in there.  It’s supposed to be fun, not stressful!


 


4.  As his penis continues to harden, try alternating strokes using either hand.  Go really slowly.  Don’t skimp on the lubricant.  Most guys tend to get hand jobs from themselves, and do them quickly to get the job done, no pun intended.  Going slowly will be a sexy and refreshing change for him.


 


5.  Experiment with different angles.  Most women tend to hold a penis at a 90 degree angle from his body, but going a bit more toward his belly will tend to keep it harder, and going a bit more toward his thighs may make it soften up.  (Not to mention that I hear the latter can cause pain.  Just say no to penis sprains!)


 


6.  Slowly begin a series of increasingly tight squeezes to the shaft of the penis, backing off between squeezes.  Mix these up with slow but firm strokes, caresses and finger rubs until he has an erection that looks like it’s going to explode.  Then, stand back, because it very well might!  I recommend clean up with one or more baby wipes, or a wet face cloth.  This can be part of your loving gesture toward him, too, rather than “his problem”. 

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