Ladies, it is time to learn how to give your man a hand in bed.
If your lover is like many men, he would love to have sex every day or even multiple times a day. Unfortunately, many women can't keep up with their lovers' sex drives. The stress of work and family drain women of their ability to get turned on and be spontaneously in the mood for sex, especially intercourse. Transitioning from laundry to lingerie is not as easy as many sex advice columns would have us believe. Learning how to create the relaxation and intimacy to transition a woman from stressed-out to blissed-out is essential for creating a sustainable sex life. How I Fell Madly In Lust With My Husband
But there are other essential tools to keep your male lover satisfied, to give him the pleasure and attention he craves, and to keep his sex drive in a healthy cruise control when you aren't in the mood for intercourse. Those tools are right in front of you. Ladies, it is time to learn how to use your hands.
When was the last time you had sex with just your hands? What are your first thoughts when this question is posed? Many women haven't brought a man fully to climax with just their hands since high school or college. Some think it "doesn't count as sex." Others are simply at a loss, claiming they don't know how. Or, you might think a man can do that all on his own, so why would you bother?
Your hands are sensitive, dexterous and capable of giving your man intense pleasure and powerful climaxes. With a little skill and confidence, you can fully satisfy your man and leave him feeling saturated with pleasure. Let's face it, sometimes the idea of intercourse or oral sex is too much. But you may be turned-on enough to kiss, cuddle and give your man a fabulous orgasm with your hands!
Today's challenge is to add this skill to your sexual repertoire, and then notice the benefits of bringing manual stimulation back into your bedroom. We're going to help you out by showing you that touching a man goes way beyond the "one-stroke wonder" kind of touch you might have used back in the day.
First, forget everything you think you know about hand jobs. Forget the image of holding on and pumping up and down in the same frenzied motion over and over again. We're not quite sure when this one-stroke model for touching men became the norm, but throw it out the window—men deserve a lot more finesse than that.
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To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.
Right now, I want you to:
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Within 7 days I want you to:
Make love to your man with just your hands. Use lube, experiment with firmer pressure, and use some of the strokes you learned in the video guide or from this post. Pay attention to his response and notice what feels good to your lover. Notice how it feels to give your man pleasure with just your hands, and ask yourself if this could become a more regular part of your sex life? Would your relationship improve if you offered this kind of touch more frequently? Are there any kinds of touch that you would like to experience more often?
By the end of the challenge I want you to:
Experiment together and try to prolong his pleasure. Can you make him last two or three minutes longer than usual? Can you double the time it takes him to climax? Have him tell you when he is getting close to climax and use your new skills to back off for a few minutes then build up his arousal again, creating peaks and valleys of pleasure. Make this a game without getting too goal-oriented—this is about pleasure, after all!