Single? Why Men May Ignore You


Single? Why Men May Ignore You [EXPERT]
Plus: 5 ways to attract male attention!

Picture this: It's Friday night and you are dressed up, ready for a night out on the town with your friends. You hit the best night spots and have a blast, but you are bothered by the fact that all night, not one guy made a pass at you.

There is something to be said about the "singular man." The "singular man" is a force to be reckoned with. He is the guy who goes out alone. Or, he may be out with a group of friends, but he makes it a point to step away and work the room. He doesn't look lonely or afraid. He is confident and comfortable with rolling solo. He is a social butterfly and has no problem mixing it up and meeting new people.

Sometimes, he has the gift of gab and other times, he can be a man of few words. He is very observant, and makes it a point to survey and stay aware of his surroundings. He is mysterious and his preferred method of flirtation is non-verbal. He has a strong grasp of the importance of eye contact and a smile, and has no problem using it. You never have to guess if he is attracted to you because he will make his interest clearly known.

Have you ever noticed that you get hit on way more when you are alone versus when you're with a group of friends? For myself, I never get hit on when I am with a group but when I am alone … it's like open season. Here's the thing: When you are hanging out with your friends, it can be slightly intimidating for a guy to show interest in getting to know you.

We have all experienced it. When we see a guy that we find attractive, hanging out with his friends, we hesitate to make an introduction because we are waiting for the "right" moment. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't, and we end up kicking ourselves for it later. Being singular is a tactic that all single men should really employ and ultimately enjoy. 3 Things All Men Need In A Relationship

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