Don't lose perspective.
When you're single and looking for love, it's easy to start viewing the solo life as a pesky disease you're trying to get rid of.
But, the truth is — savoring your single status is an essential part of finding true and lasting love. It offers you an invaluable opportunity to grow into the best version of yourself while fine-tuning your understanding of what you want (and don't want) in a romantic relationship.
Yes, your emotions might feel up and down. But there is purpose in the frustration you feel. I promise.
The biggest secret to finding a relationship when you feel perpetually single is to start giving yourself, in the present, what you hope a wonderful partner will offer in the future. Show up for yourself 100 percent now while believing that "The One" is out there.
Sometimes, along the way, you just need a few reminders about how to handle the here-and-now of being single while keeping your goal of finding love on track.
Here are eight quotes to help you stay sane and truly enjoy being single (even if you're on the hunt for a relationship):
1. Don't let past mistakes influence your future.
"We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future." - Steve Maraboli
You have the power and insight to stop your next relationship from ending up like your last. Being single is an opportunity to clarify what you want in life. Now is the time to design that life in your mind and live each day in support of attracting that future.
2. Find the courage to start dating again.
"Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage." – Brene Brown
Dating to find new love will involve uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure, but being seen and loved for who you are is one of life’s most fulfilling experiences. There is courage in vulnerability. Be brave and put your true self out there.
3. Don't forget to have fun.
"Not everything in life has to be about finding "The One." Sometimes a girl just wants to have fun." – Mandy Hale
You can live a fun and fulfilling life with or without a man. If you’re happy with your life as it is, then there’s no reason to obsessively look for "The One." Engaging in fun activities makes you an attractive single which just might help you magnetize your perfect match (when the time is right).
4. Focus on your life, not on finding a man.
"Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best." - Unknown
Don’t let your relationship status eat up more of your thoughts than managing your finances or making plans for the day at hand. Cut the excess stress out of your life and enjoy exactly where you are along your journey. You are still a whole person with a full life whether there's a man in the picture or not.
5. Savor the uncertainty of how long you'll be single.
"Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security." - John Allen Paulos
Being single is a rich opportunity to reconnect with yourself, a time of reflection, a time of acceptance and letting go of the past so you can welcome new experiences and adventures today!
6. Decide you're worth the effort, here and now.
"I think we are going to have to love ourselves. Fuck." – Liz Tuccillo
The most important decision of your life, the one that affects every other decision you make, is the commitment you make to love and accept yourself. Hint: Loving yourself is not a onetime event — it’s an ongoing process. But remember, if you don't find yourself worth the effort ... why would anyone else? So, treat yourself well.
7. Make consistent exercise a top priority.
"Exercise is a dirty word. Every time I hear it, I wash my mouth out with chocolate." - Charles M. Schulz
Exercise not only helps you stay slim and attractive, it releases endorphins, which make you feel happy. This helps you stay both physically and emotionally fit.
8. Celebrate the perks of living life on your own terms.
"Just embrace it and do exactly what you always wanted to do. You’ll be fine." – Cathie Roberts
Being single means you're free to enjoy any activity you want (without having to check in with a partner). You can volunteer more, make new friends, explore your community, and even advance your career. So go for it!
Trust me, the grass is not always greener on the other side.
Being in a relationship is wonderful ... but, so is being single! Love the amazing life you have now and, before you know it, "true love" will become a part of it, too.
Teena Evert is a licensed marriage and family therapist and love relationship coach helping proactive single divorcees design the life they want and find the love they deserve. Make sure to download Teena’s FREE Prepare for Love Checklist.
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