5 Comebacks When Your Partner Blames You For His Lies

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5 Comebacks When Your Partner Blames You For His Lies
Whether it's a "white lie" or a big whopper, here's what to say when he lies...

It's upsetting and it hurts when you discover that your partner has lied. Even if the lie you catch him in is about something minor, it brings up questions. You start to wonder what else your partner is lying to you about and whether anything he (or she) says is true at all!

If the lie you uncover is clearly a big deal, your relationship is suddenly on the line. You're now at the place where you're deciding whether or not to stay with your partner. If you stay, the road to rebuilding trust is just beginning and all feels uncertain. Without a doubt, lying of any kind damages your relationship. When you realize that your partner's actions don't match what he or she said or you come upon proof that contradicts your partner's claims, your relationship suffers.

It's a lot like when your hand brushes up against a piece of wood and you come away with a splinter. If left untended, the splinter could wedge itself deeper and deeper into your skin. The wound may become infected leaving you with an inflamed thumb. Your reaction to your partner's lying could leave your relationship just as inflamed. If you try to pretend that he or she didn't lie, resentment and suspicion can fester. If you yell, scream or make sarcastic comments, the "wound" will only get worse. Keep reading...

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