6 Reasons She HATES Giving Blow Jobs (And 1 Way To Change Her Mind)

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It's time you changed things up so BOTH of you are happier in bed.

Have you ever wondered why women HATE giving oral sex to some guys and LOVE going down on others?

If so, get excited, because you’re about to learn exactly what you might have been doing to turn your girl off from going down on you, and exactly what you need to do differently to make her love it!

6 Reasons why girls HATE giving blow jobs:

1. You aren't cleaning yourself up enough.

If it’s been more than a couple of hours since your last shower, you’re not going to smell your best. Make sure you jump in the shower before you think anything is going to go down, that way you can be prepared for whatever might happen. Keep in mind that hair attracts odor, so if you don’t already, start trimming down there and you’ll look and smell much more appetizing.

2. You make her gag.

One of the most common fears women have is gagging and choking when giving a blow job. It can be nerve wracking for her, so STOP pushing her head down and NEVER force her to go deeper than she's comfortable with, or you’ll only make her less likely to do it again in the future.

That being said, there ARE some girls out there that actually enjoy gagging when giving oral sex. It's better to be safe than sorry, though, so unless she’s specifically asking for it, stay on the safe side and let her be in control.

3. You guilt her into giving you a blow job.

Begging isn’t sexy. Head by guilt also tends to be pretty lousy. So just don’t do it! Instead, learn what makes her WANT (and even LOVE) to do it (parts 2 and 3 of this article will show you how.)

4. You don't consider that your ejaculation tastes terrible.

If she’s going down on you, it’s because she wants to please and/or tease you. She knows that swallowing would please you too, but if you taste like sewer water (and most guys do), she’s not going to want it anywhere near her mouth. Ask her where she wants you to finish, or experiment with was to make yourself taste better.

Also never, EVER orgasm in her mouth without warning. If you do, getting blow jobs will be a thing of the past and you’ll only have yourself to blame.

5. You take way too long to finish.

Head that lasts more than 10 minutes will probably result in a sore jaw and a bored girlfriend. Her position can become uncomfortable and at that point, she's starting to wonder if you’re not enjoying yourself. All of this can make her begin to associate negative feelings to giving you oral sex and will only hurt your chances at getting more in the future.

6. You don’t give her enough feedback.

This is without question the most important thing you need to keep in mind when receiving oral sex. If you’re acting like a dead fish who doesn’t move, moan, or let her know how incredible she’s making you feel, she’s not going to have a good time. So many guys make this mistake, and it turns a fun old blow job into a boring chore that she’ll want to get over with as quickly as possible.

Keep in mind that not ALL girls hate giving blow jobs. For some lucky guys, there are women that LOVE doing what they do.
Here are 4 things girls LOVE about giving blow jobs:

1. She likes the way you smell when you're CLEAN.

When you’re clean and your manhood isn’t engulfed in an aroma of day old sweat, you actually smell and taste good to a lot of women. Some say this is caused by natural pheromones produced by your body. 

Either way, after a few “visits,” your scent will get associated to the emotions she’s feeling. Just make sure she’s having fun and soon your smell alone will trigger these positive emotions.

2. She loves making you feel really good.

If you want her to have fun going down on you, let her SEE, FEEL and HEAR that you’re having fun. You need to show her that you're enjoying all of her hard work.

3. She LOVES that she has power over you.

When you let her know (through good feedback) that she's the source of this mind-blowing pleasure you’re getting, she feels powerful, sexy and wanted. Every once in a while, tell her to stop when you’re about to lose control. Let her feel and enjoy the power of controlling your pleasure.

4. She likes returning the favor.

As guys, we really are lucky. We can give a woman 67 different types of orgasms BEFORE penetration sex!

Women, on the other hand, don’t have nearly as many options. So when you use just a few of the 67 ways to make her orgasm first, she will be compelled to return the favor. Never think “I made her orgasm so now she owes me one.”

But let’s be real — we’re human, and as Cialdini pointed out in his book, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, we all feel an inherent, compelling need to reciprocate. So let human nature do its thing and start the cycle by giving her many different types of orgasms and you’ll both benefit!

So knowing what it is about oral sex that women both love and hate, here's how to make her WANT to give you blow jobs (YES, it's possible):

When a woman has an orgasm, her brain releases a chemical called oxytocin. Some call it the love chemical because it floods our brain when we fall in love. Like any chemical, we can (and often do) associate it to a specific act or event that happens around us at the time of its release.

So if you give your girl a very specific type of orgasm every time she's giving you a blow job, her subconscious mind will associate the 2 together. Do this a few times and going down on you will remind her of how good it feels to her too. 

Buy a special vibrator that you only use on her while she gives you oral sex, or try using a position that pleases you both at the same time. As long as she's associating the two pleasures at once, she'll want to do it again and again.

Lastly, if you're wondering how to initiate a blow job in the first place (maybe with a new girlfriend), do the following:

1. Make her orgasm first.

2. Make her orgasm more.

3. Make her orgasm often.

Remember, reciprocation is wired into our brains. I guarantee that when you start giving her multiple kinds of foreplay orgasms, she will reciprocate!

Watch the 67 ways to make her come first video… and get ready for the very best blowjobs of your entire life!

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