Once the initial excitement of a new relationship starts to fade, so can your sex life. Luckily this guide on how to have better sex is going to show you exactly what you need to do to make sure this never happens. I'm going to start with the most important aspect of learning how to have better sex, then I'm going to show you specific things that you can do to keep things spicy.
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Communication Is Key
Without a doubt, the most important thing you need to worry about if you want to have better, more enjoyable sex is communicating effectively with your partner. Obviously this is important in all aspects of your relationship but it's especially important when it comes to sex. So how can you do this?
Keep an open mind
Talk to your man and let him know that you want to please him and want to discover what kinds of things turn him on and really get him horny. Note: If you are super direct when trying to find out what he's into, then he will most likely close up and not actually tell you. Taking an indirect approach is far more effective in getting him to open up and reveal his kinks, fetishes, and turn ons. Here are a few effective examples that you can use.
- "I love being submissive in the bed with you, it's so hot. I bet you enjoy dominating me too. Do you?"
- "Sometimes I think it would be super hot to just tie you up and have my way with you. Would you like that?"
- "I bet you'd love to see me dress up in something sexy for you, would you?"
As well as finding out what his turn ons are, make sure that he is aware of the things that really get you going too. One easy way to do this is to simply tell him what you enjoy him doing while you are having sex. Saying something as simple as, "Yes" or, "Just like that," is the perfect way to encourage him.
But sometimes guys can be a bit dumb and you need to be more obvious. If that's the case, then just straight up tell him. It could be something like, "That was super hot last night when you took control in bed" or, "I love it when you let me ride you in the Cowgirl position." I hope this introduction to communicating with your man will help you understand just how important it is. If he never gets any feedback, he will ultimately never know how to properly improve.
New Lovemaking Positions
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Even though I show you how to give your man an incredible blowjob in this powerful tutorial video, I want to talk about something that may be a bit of a duh moment for you. The easiest way to have better sex and improve things in the bedroom is to try new positions with your man. There are literally hundreds to choose from. Just a quick warning there are tons of exotic ones too, but they aren't necessarily that much fun. Here are two that you absolutely need to try: