I often get questions about whether or not guys enjoy foreplay. The truth is this: they really enjoy it! If you do foreplay right, then you are both going to enjoy love making a whole lot more. These seven foreplay tips from the Bad Girl's Bible will show you exactly what to do to make foreplay enjoyable for both of you:
1. How you look. Remember, guys are visual by nature. They get turned on by what they see. So, taking care of how you look is a high priority if you want to turn your man on and arouse him. Think of this as a 'pre' foreplay tip to use before you even begin touching him. If you are both going to a party together, dressing up in something sexy and hot is going to start turning your man on hours before you start getting physically intimate. This is great for building sexual tension with him.
2. Talk dirty. Talking dirty is another one of my 'pre' foreplay tips to use on your man throughout the day, before you are both alone together, as well as during foreplay itself. This is to build the sexual tension and have your man salivating for you. Many people believe that talking dirty involves you using various expletives and bad language on your partner. They believe that the crazier they sound, the better. This, thankfully, isn't true. It's much easier than that!
You just need to tell him what you enjoy, why he turns you on and what you want to do to him. As well as this, it's always a good idea to throw in some vague statements to keep him guessing and thinking about you. This site has some great examples to use on your man, both during foreplay and when making love.
3. Learn how to be a good kisser. Too many people think that kissing is a boring foreplay technique. It's not boring at all. And if you do it with passion and intensity like I teach on my site, then it can be incredibly hot! The key is taking the initiative. In other words, you need to kiss your man first before he gets a chance to kiss you.
One thing you can do to make this foreplay tip hotter is by getting a little more aggressive:
- Try squeezing one of his lips between your lips.
- Gently bite one of his lips between your teeth (Remember: be gentle!)
- Use your hand to move his head to one side or the other so that you can change where you kiss him.
- Switch from kissing him on the lips to sucking his ear lobe to kissing him on the neck.
- Don't forget to kiss the rest of his body!
4. Learn how to use your hands. While kissing your man, you can incorporate another foreplay tip, which is touching and massaging your man with your hands. Rather than give you a whole course on how to do it like on my site, here are the main things to keep in mind when touching him. Use these tips:
- Alternate how passionately you touch him. At first touch him and caress him very softly, then later grab him and hold him tight. You may even want to try using your nails sometimes!
- Try dragging your finger tips over his arm as lightly as possible. It tickles, but feels incredible.
- Your man's inner thighs, cheeks, ears, neck and the back of his head are most sensitive...speaking of which.
5. Massage his scalp. Massaging your man's scalp is one of those forgotten foreplay tips that feels wonderful for your man (and when your man does it to you, too!). You can do it while you are just sitting down beside each other, when you are lying in bed, when you are kissing each other or even while making love, too. But don't just scrape his head with your nails! To massage his scalp, start from the bottom near the back of his neck or just above his ear.
Keeping your hand loose, start to slowly push your fingers through his hair up towards the top of his head. When you reach the top of his head, curl your fingers slightly and gently bring them down in the opposite direction, lightly scratching his head.
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