Are you ready for the man of your dreams to come walking to your life? Are you sure? Many women think they are ready for a relationship but within a few weeks or months of being with a man they realize they aren't as ready as they thought they were.
Being ready for a relationship is similar to a cake being ready for the icing. When a cake has been baked properly and the icing is applied the final product is incredible. However, if the cake itself isn't ready and it doesn't taste good, the icing may improve it a little bit but it still won't taste good.
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Think of the man as the icing. If you are a delicious and well prepared cake on your own the man makes the cake even better. But here's the key, without the icing, the cake is fine on its own.
If you opened a can of dog food and put icing on it, it will still taste bad. You could have the greatest man in the world, but if you aren't ready for him your relationship will not give you what you desire.
Unfortunately this is true for many women. They think their prayers will be answered and they'll live happily ever after if they just had a man. Well, usually within a few months of getting that man these women often find that they are not as happy as they thought they'd be?
Why? Because a man can not make you happy? But he can make you happier. Just like the icing enhances a good cake a "good" man enhances a woman and her life. But the man can't be the source of her happiness.
If you took the icing away from the good tasting cake it would still be satisfying. However if you took the icing off of the dog food you would not be able to tolerate even one bite.
The key to creating and is to make sure you are emotionally available for a good man. Just as the cake has to be ready for the icing, a woman has to be ready and open to be loved.
Here are 3 signs which let you know if you are relationship ready:
1) Have you let go of the past? If you have dated more than one guy in your life chances are you've had your heart broken. Often this experience creates such emotional trauma that it is hard to let go of that hurt. As a result of holding onto the hurt we go into a protection mode and often don't allow ourselves to open up as much. Unfortunately holding onto the past may keep us form being hurt again but it gets in the way of us having what we really want.
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2) Do you have a positive attitude? When you talk about men, dating and relationships what are the words you use? Do you say "men don't know how to treat women", "men only care about sex" or "all the good men are taken"? Or do you have a more positive and optimistic attitude?
I'll be the first to admit that there are a lot of men who don't respect women and are only interested in one thing. But if you talk to any single guy who is looking for a relationship he will tell you that it is just as frustrating and challenging for him to find a good woman.